We have lived together for two years, and together for 2 1/2. We have talked about getting ingauged, marriage, and children. He says he is waiting for the right momment for ingaugement. His family loves me, and my family loves him. I just don't know, I thought getting ingauged was supposed to be the right moment when ever, like if its ment to be then why is it taking so long. Am I being impatient or parinoid...or maybe its because im only 20 going on 21...???
2006-10-31 11:33:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are both very young. Life has alot in store for you, why do you want to rush into it.
From my experience though, I was with 2 diff guys 4 years a piece, having thos etalks, wondering like you.........Then I met a great guy and we were together 6 months and he proposed.
The bottom line, when he is ready, he will. Enjoy the now and instead of bothering him with it, show him the reasons you'll make a wonderful fiance and wife.
2006-10-31 11:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap... I am in the same situation, but you sound more desperate than I do. I am 21 and have been with my boyfriend for 5!! YEARS!! And we have known eachother for 6 1//2 years!! He has already bought my ring (last year) but has not proposed. I at least want to be engaged for 2 or 3 years before I get married. My advise to you is give it at least a few more years before you jump into anything. After all you've only been together for 2 1/2 years?? How can you really KNOW someone after such a short time?
Your marriage will end in divorce unless you REALLY get to know eachother, give it some time :)
2006-10-31 11:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by LadyDeath$trike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my husband for five years before he proposed and we also had lived together for a few years! Despite what everyone else is saying, marriage can happen and work for people your age so don't think it is an age thing neccessarily! My guy wanted to wait to propose until both of my older sisters and one of his was either engaged or married. So needless to say, even though we had been together longer than any of our siblings, that is what we waited for. I had to respect that though, because he was waiting for respect issues. Your guy may have something he wants to wait for. Maybe until he has a better job, saves more money, graduates college. Who knows what his reasons are but I am sure whatever reason he is waiting for is for a good reason. If you trust that he loves you, wait!! It will be right when it happens, and who knows maybe he is just waiting until you stop talking about it so he can surprise you!!!
2006-10-31 12:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just take your time if hes not ready dont pressure him just becaues you are . He might resent you later if you do. Just sit back and be happy in the place you are and when you aren expecting it he will pop the question. He might be waiting untill you stop bugging him about it so he can set up a big surprise for you. You never know. Dont rush you have your whole lives to get married
2006-10-31 11:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could just be nervous about taking the next step if youve been together as long as you have and everything is ok he may think it could change that and not for the better just be patient he will propose when its the right time for both of u
2006-10-31 11:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by x_xkearax_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your rush? Why do you feel the need to be married at such a young age? If you are happy, why do you need a piece of paper to tell you that?
2006-10-31 11:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so young - there's NO HURRY!
I'm 44 - got married in my early twenties - and wish I'd waited a few years longer.
FP
2006-10-31 11:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is running out of time..
Don't let it drag on forever..
You are going to have to call an end to it
if he can not commit and marry you..
2006-10-31 11:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,you have a long way ahead of you..don't do things that you might regret later on.just don't lose patience,huh?anyway,if your man really loves you,he'll do as he promised,am I right?good luck!
2006-10-31 11:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Samzen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plenty of time yet. Perhaps your not the right partner for each other?
2006-10-31 11:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋