Ive been thinking about getting back with my ex weve been separated for six months because he got addicted to pain killers ( he was prescibed them for a back injury he got on his job) we were together fo about 4 years married for 2. I just dont know if i can trust him. Im 25 so its not like Ima kid and we do not have any kids together. I moved 500 miles away because i couldnt make iton my own nd now i live witha relative. I miss my ex for the most part he was a good guy but I dont know what to do. If you were me what would you do?
2006-10-31 11:30:36 · 19 answers · asked by Catie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would like to add that i do have kids and the reason i left was becaus ehe got verbally abusive to all of us and i was afraid it might go further and eve though i knew it was the pil;;s talking and not him i wasnt going to risk my kids since he didnt want to change
2006-10-31 12:05:01 · update #1
Do him.
2006-10-31 11:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Redeemer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him another chance BUT ONLY IF, he's gotten help for his addiction. People change when they take drugs and/or drink alcohol. If they get the help though, they can be the same person they use to be. I know from experience. This is a huge decision though, especially if you're going to move back 500 miles. Make sure you plan ahead and know that both of you want this. I wish you the best of luck!!
2006-10-31 19:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were very brave and strong to leave an intolerable situation. If I were you, I'd consider whether this is a pattern of addiction or whether this is a one time thing that he won't go back to. Everyone can become addicted to pain killers - it's what you do after that makes a difference. Obviously things were bad enough for you to completely leave. If he has gone to rehab and reformed and stays that way for another two or three months then I think that you can consider going back. Stay strong, don't be afraid to ask for help and make sure that you have support. Good luck.
2006-10-31 19:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got addicted after an injury....did he abuse you? Was he unfaithful? What don't you trust him about...the medication or his faithfullness?
More importantly, do you still love him?
Marriage is supposed to be in sickness and in health, for better or for worse...not just until the going gets rough. What if he would have been in an accident and been paralyzed, or if he had a stroke? Would you have abandoned him when he needed you most? you need to examine what marriage means to you. Don't take the vows lightly.
...and then ask yourself if HE can trust YOU...trust you to be there if he has any other problems...or if you'll walk away again....
2006-10-31 19:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by suziq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep that distance between you and find a local love interest who has no baggage. It's hard to let go of a history. People love the romantic notion of soul mates and the longevity that comes with that, but those 4 years will be nothing when you find the right person and add those great years up!
2006-10-31 19:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had enough balls to leave him, I would not go back. There must have been a serious reason for you to leave (i.e., his addiction was bad enough to drive you away) - why go back to what you ran from to begin with? Drugs are very dangerous and destructive to everyone involved. If you can't trust him completely, I think it would be a wise move to stay away.
2006-10-31 19:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if he's clean now or not, and if you don't know if you can trust him you probably can't, you would know if you could. I would not get back with him, especially if you moved so far away, don't go back to him just because he offers financial security. get you're own life together and be happy without him.
2006-10-31 19:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the definition of insane - doing the same thing again and again, nothing changing, and yet expecting different and better results. You left him once - what makes you think you won't do it a second time? Don't go back.
2006-11-01 06:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns and stay away for the time being. If he is clean after a couple of years, then maybe you can think of reconciling.
2006-10-31 20:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some counselling to help you work out what is going to be best for you.
what works for someone from here may not be the right course of actionfor you to take
have you kept in touch with him? does he have the medication usage under control?
2006-10-31 19:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would't get back together with him but I would be a good friend for him cause it sounds like he might need someone to be there for him.
2006-10-31 19:34:34 · answer #11 · answered by Britters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋