i cant be the only person to never make it to a year even though it wasnt me that walked away from the marraige
2006-10-31 11:05:02 · 32 answers · asked by smiff78 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well the first one was 3 months this one might be six if he will sign the damn papers
2006-11-01 16:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hillary B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How interesting..
I dated/livied with someone for about 6 years, we got married, and all of a sudden he wanted me to stay home and have kids instead of my career. After all that time I thought I knew him well enough, and vice versa.
Point is, we lasted, married, for only about 6-8 months, and I went on the road with a major touring act, where as it became obvious that was a silly mistake.
Hey, mistakes happen. I thnk that I walked away, but after deliberation in his mind, the conclusion was made that YOU CANNOT HAVE A ONE-SIDED MARRIAGE. If there is one of two that has problems, there is not a combination of power. REMEMBER a marriage is NOT 50/50.. it is 100/100
That is why you must walk away, and remember that the math in this is a simple equation. 1 + 0 = 1
Stay true to your belief that there is a perfect mate for you. It could be the one you married, but FOR RIGHT NOW, it is not. Make the best of the time spent on changing YOUR behavior. Surprisingly, that could be a reason for a marriage breakup, "Change". Sometimes people change in ways that the other is not satisfied...
2006-10-31 11:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lady,
just forget and but it behind you,its over,its was a bad Dream,now you are up,start the new Day with a good and clear Mind.You know,if you are with some one together for 9 Months,and you split,its not a big Deal,its all the same,its just a piece of Paper,means nothing,the only piece that's mean anything is when your bring your Paycheck to the Bank,you get something for it.Start over,all the best from Canada
2006-10-31 11:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be married 21 years this year. It is my one and only marriage. It hasn't been all champagne, moonlight, and roses but it's been pretty close many many times. Marriage is work. The "for better or worse..." part of the vows was a clue as to what marriage would involve. If I had to do it all over again. I would.
This marriage wasn't the one for you but I bet you learned alot about what you want from a partner and will be able to use that knowledge to make a more compatible choice for yourself. Good Luck to you.
2006-10-31 11:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my marriage ahs lasted for 6 1/2 years, but it should have been done in the first year too. I guess if i wouldn't have stayed i wouldn't have had the 2nd kid, so I guess it was sort of worth it. So that means i should have left 4 1/2 years ago. I'm just running a little late. i went to the court house to start seperation procedures today....
2006-10-31 11:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine lasted 16 years and sadly ended when she passed away suddenly. We had so many plans for the future so we were counting on an extra 20, 30 , 40 years (etc.) together at least.
2006-10-31 22:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine 9 years and with the help of God hopefully there will be a 10 comming up!! Don't worry it was just not ment for you. You will find that half. Give it some time.
2006-10-31 11:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Shortcake r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is still going strong after 32 years. However my daughters only lasted 10 months.
2006-10-31 11:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by fatboysdaddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad truth is that sometimes we think we are with the right person only to find out we arn't at the most inappropriate moment. It is pretty shitty being the cause of a break down too, especially when it involved a good friend who falls in love with you just after she got married!
At least you got out of something bad. good luck to you
2006-10-31 11:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lost soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are lucky to find out so quickly what his true colors were before spending years and years with him. I was married for 17 years before I finally got out of a bad marriage. I realise now that things happen for a reason and we weren't meant to be together. One day you will find someone who deserves you and will make you happy. Take this time to get to know yourself again and find fun things to do. Good luck!
2006-10-31 12:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine lasted 3 and a half long years. I should've left him after two days...
Then again, I have a wonderful daughter because of him. I was also the one who finally walked away, though I had good reason (take your pick: drinking, gambling, cheating, drugs, verbal and physical abuse... he did it all).
2006-10-31 11:10:31 · answer #11 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋