I know who the person is but she is not and never was a friend fortunately l choose my friends more carefully. The scrag used to work with my partner many years ago and she got in touch with a mutual friend of theirs. We were having a few problems at the time and so when she handed out her phone number and asked for it to be handed on knowing full well that my partner and l were married it just opened up an opportunity for him.He now knows he certainly did the wrong thing and wants nothing more to do with her. Unfortunately the damage has been done though.We are working hard on undoing the scrags damage and he constantly tells me he loves only me and she meant nothing to him and if you saw her you could certainly believe that.I know l love him dearly and he is certainly worthy of my love, but l just don't want her to totally get away with it scott free. I need some advice as to what l can do to her LEGALLY ofcourse. Just for my own peace of mind.She is scum. Please help.
2006-10-31 10:50:50 · 6 answers · asked by kazzadanni 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Aaaah....revenge,a woman scorned and all that Jazz!Your hurt,angry and you feel betrayed by the one man who is supposed to be your friend lover and protector.Life sucks when this stuff happens,But revenge is not the answer!In fact I would advise you to either forget it and work on your relationship or leave.If you choose to hurt her "Legally" all that does is drag the whole situation on and on and this will couse you more hurt and anguish.You need to forgive and forget or get out,you have to decide if you can forgive if not it will eat away at you.Forgivness!Its not the easy option in fact if you do forgive that makes you a better person,but you do have to put it behind you forget her and what they did move on and be a little bit selfish....get him to buy you gifts,take you out to dinner etc...if he truly is sorry and loves you he will do this.But make him sweat,don't let him think he's got of scott free.He needs to know this is the first and last time he can cheat on you..you will not be so forgiving should it happen a 2nd time.Be strong move on,have fun and above all else...Be Happy...lifes just too short
2006-10-31 11:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Cyruss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally? If there's a law against being a scrag (is that word coming back in style, was it ever?) then call the cops. Otherwise I don't know what you'd have on her that you could get her for. You won. You got him (congratulations, I would have let her have him, which would have been the best way to punish her!) so don't you think that's enough? If you go out seeking revenge you're no better than the scrag, and you could be in trouble legally!
2006-10-31 21:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
legally there is nothing u can do, if he loves only you, than he should be willing to go to counciling, he should admit the wrong he did to you. he had a choice here, and he chose to do this. life is all about choices we make, concentrate on mending your relationship, forget the other woman, don't make her important, he came back to u didn't he. but it would be wise to wait awhile before u trust again until u know if he is truly repentant. u can't just rush back in as if it didn't occur, or completely blame this woman, u need to set limits with him, and mean it, and be prepared if it happens again to carry through with it. these kind of women are opportunist, they seem to be always there when problems arise in a marriage, they see their chance and seize it. if u love your man forget the woman,concentrate on him, and healing your hurt.
2006-10-31 19:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "scrag" couldn't have been all that bad for your hubby to hook up with her. Its not ALL her fault. Your husband has no self control. I hope for your sake he doesn't stray again.You are belittling yourself if you take revenge. Hold you head high.
2006-10-31 18:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you stop thinking about any revenge.If he already reasurre you, that he loves you then just leave it at that. There is no need for any other to take place. Obviously she did turn him on at one point, but that is all over I hope. Just remember once a cheater always a cheater!!!! So stay alert.
2006-10-31 19:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shortcake r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not the answer, things happen for a reason. Just try to work with him to make things better for the both of you.
2006-10-31 18:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋