i'm pregnant and i'm in an abuseif relationship and i don't what 2 do?

Question

i know i should leave but i want the baby to have a father,he says he's happy.But every time i put r new baby 2 bed he freaks and little things like that.he has even broken my arm!i'm just scared cause's he's i great father but it just happens behind closed doors?any answers?

Answer 1

You're pregnant AND have a new baby? Oh my...........you got to L-E-A-V-E!!!!! Get the strength, and leave. Having a abusive relationship is terrible enough when you are alone, but when there are children involved, you can't tolerate it. Be honest with yourself about the situation. Don't use your children "needing a father" as an excuse for not leaving him, because if he's already broken your arm, eventually, something may happen to the children too. It may not, BUT..........do you really want to put your children at risk like that? How would you feel, if something happened to one of your children by him, in one of his "freaks and little things" moments? I don't know about you, but there is NO WAY I would keep my children in that situation!!! Get strong and GO!!!! Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Like what has been said, a good father does not break the mothers arm. Not only will he beat the child, but the child will learn this from the father and beat his spouse and children in the future. So before you sit back and make excuses you need to realize that you are just as guilty for hurting your children and children's children when they get beaten because you could have stood up for what is right and left that situation. So do just that and leave, and get a restraining order from any gutless coward that breaks women's arms.

Answer 3

Okay, do you want your baby to grow up to think that she should be beaten by her partner one of these days? Or that he should beat his partner? Because that's what you will teach them. Or maybe, rather than growing up without a father, they'll grow up without a mother... if he's hurting you badly enough to break your arm, how do you know next time he'll stop with a broken bone?

Someone who has such problems controlling his anger should not be around infants. I know you think he is a good dad, but what if he freaks out about a little thing while he is alone with one of your children.

If you are not in a place where you have family or friends who will support you when you get out (and you NEED to get out of this relationship, yesterday if possible) you can call
1-800-799-SAFE (7233). This is a national hotline for victims of domestic violence. They can help you figure out what to do.

Take good care of yourself and your kids. I hope all the best for you.

Answer 4

Listen very carefully. A good father does not break the arm of his child's mother. Of course he beats you behind closed doors. He knows it's wrong, and doesn't want anyone else to know what he's doing. As soon as you can, get some place safe. Can you go to your parent's house? Maybe a sister, or a friend? If you can't do that, check for a battered women's shelter. They will help you get back on your feet. This man is dangerous to you and your children. It's your job to protect your kids, and you can't do that in the same house as that man.

Answer 5

Hey,
Just ask yourself this question....Who is more important to you, the baby or the baby's dad? Yeah, you want the baby to have a dad, why don't you go find one that isn't abusive? There are alot of man that would accept you and the baby as his own, my husband took me knowing that I had a baby that wasn't his, and he raise her since she was 3 1/2 month old like his own!! Just do what is right for the baby's sake, you wouldn't want your baby to get hit, or maybe even kill, because the dad was in a bad mood, or got tired of hearing the baby cry, now would you? May God be with you!!! I keep you in my prayers also that whatever decision you make, that God will be with you!!!

Answer 6

I think you should leave him. If he's already broken your arm, who knows what else he could be capable of? A great father doesn't beat his girlfriend or wife even if he's not beating his child.

Please, I know you want your baby to have a father. But you need to look out for yourself too. If you stay, your baby may just end up with a father and only a father.

Answer 7

Anyone who abuses another person is ill. That person has mental health problems that need to be addressed by a professional.

Seek help for yourself and your children now. Do not stay in an abusive relationship just because the father of your baby is "sometimes" ok.

You deserve better and so do your children.'

Answer 8

well raising your children in an environment like that will make for children who do the same , I've been there done that , get out of the relationship do you honestly believe this man loves you because i sure don't . I think if he is a good father then he will take them every other weekend in a separation thing. my ex was mean to me but is excellent with our kids , and he gets them every other week and the kids love it and i don't get the s**t beat out of me all the time it's a win win situation , LEAVE GIRL , DO IT NOW !!

Answer 9

Sorry, but a "great father" does not abuse the mother of his children. Even if he's good to the children (which is unlikely, since abusive people are usually abusive to everyone) he's setting a poor example for both his sons and daughters on how women should be treated. And you can't be your best for your children if you're in fear for your safety. A man who ensures his wife's needs and wants are met is, indirectly, a good father.

Look in your phone book for a social services agency. Or, call your police non-emergency number and ask if they know of any shelters.

Answer 10

What is WRONG with you? You want your baby to hve a f ather? You think a no-good, immature, irresponsible, selfish jerk makes a father, do ya? You forget that if you stay with him, it wont be long before your child is old enough to be affected by what he or she sees, and what that kid sees will be YOU being a sorry whimpering mouse to a belligerant dominating man. If your baby is a girl, she will grow up thinking that's how a woman is supposed to be in a relationship. If it's a boy, HE will grow up t hinking that is how he is supposed to treat women. And YOU, madam, yes YOU will be responsible for that. Think about it and act accordingly.