I have been dating my BF for three years. Over the summer we broke up for a month, It was bad!! He did a lot of mean things to me like call me names and leave me nasty messages when he would hear i was out on the town. (he says now that he was jelouse) My parents found out and were not happy. We have been back for 4 months now and I still havnt told my folks because everytime i mention his name they cringe and say bad things. I mean we have worked it out and i have forgiven him for what he did. Things are starting to get serious between us, He is 27 and i am 24 so he is talking about getting married within the next few years. I need to know what is the best way to approach them, when they dislike him. He is willing to be there with me when i tell them, the only problem is how do we go about it???
2006-10-31 10:25:00 · 11 answers · asked by Curlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Best way is to just tell them. I know how you feel about telling your parents, scared, nervous, antsy. Since your parents dealt with him before, it will take time for them to gain his trust again.
My gf's parents really disliked me in the beginning because the fact that im not the same race as my gf and im not in the same religion her family was in (very traditional family). But they are beginning to lighten up now.
It takes time, but best way to do it, is just telling them.
Your parents are scared about your future. Say you do get married and your bf does do all those bad things again and you would suffer a lot more money wise and emotionally too. It will be hard, but your bf will be under evaluation mode for a while until they can trust him again!
Hope this helps and good luck if you do plan to get married congrats! :)
2006-10-31 10:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by CallmeDave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a family meeting and tell them you two are dating. But dont let the fact that they dont like him keep you from the relationship. They arent the ones who might get married to the guy.
2006-10-31 10:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that you would have to be the one to tell your parents about you and your boyfriend, because if they disliked him for what he did to you I do not blame them for feeling that way.But they should come around and realize that everybody makes mistakes that we are not proud of, and if he did say he was sorry That should be a good enough reason to forgive him. I think that you are old enough to make up your own mind to whom you want to send your life with and if it's with him, well, go for it.
2006-10-31 11:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest and tell them. Don't expect them to welcome him with open arms. He hurt you once and loving caring parents find it hard to forgive someone for that. It is up to him to prove to your parents that he has truly changed his ways. Maybe he could sit down and talk to them as an adult and ask them for another chance to prove that he will not hurt you any longer.
2006-10-31 10:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably only want what is best for you and feel this guy isn't treating you right. But you are old enough to make your own decisions.
2006-10-31 10:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
flat put say.. "mom, dad.. I'm dating.. What ever his name is again and i have been for a long time just didnt know how to tell you" (close your eyes if you have to but you should tell them sooner rather than like later)
2006-10-31 10:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Osita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have dinner with them and explain that you are him dating. Explain to them why you forgave him. Tell, them that you know that they want to the best for you. Then, ask them if they want to get together and meet him.
2006-10-31 10:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, dad - everybody deserves a second chance don't you agree?
2006-10-31 10:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they think, there not dating him!
2006-10-31 10:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by Hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why you NEVER tell EVERYTHING to anyone - even after a break-up...
2006-10-31 13:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by ilovetiti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋