I'm nearly 4 months pregnant, and I've started to show, but am really self-concious because I think that everyone will think I'm just getting fat instead of pregnant. I am not happy with the way I look at all and its really getting me down, but the thing that worries me most is that, because my boyfriend has been working away for a bit (I was nice and thin before he went away), Will he think I'm just fat, and be put off by the way I now look? I used to be thin and pretty before I got pregnant, but now I look fat and my skin looks grey and ugly. I'm really worried about this, please help!!!!
(If anyone thinks this may be hormone related please say so)
2006-10-31 10:14:59 · 20 answers · asked by Amy D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My boyfriend knows I'm pregnant, he found out the same time I did
2006-10-31 10:18:38 · update #1
You will start to look preg. soon! I felt the same way at the beginning of my preg. and now I am about 6 months and finally am looking preggers! There isn't anything to be ashamed of it's a natural process and we all feel nasty getting fat but at least you have a reason b/c you are supporting another life!
2006-10-31 10:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by azbabydawl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only reason that ANYONE would think you are just getting "fat" is if you haven't told them that you are pregnant. In which case there are way more issues than what you're talking about here...
Is it hormonal? Of course it's hormonal, you're pregnant. Your hormones are literally jumping around, bouncing off the walls, and then taking naps when they feel like it... Imagine your hormones right now like they are narcoleptics on Meth. Just all over the place.
It's nothing you can do much about without help from a doctor and some pharmaceuticals... which, honestly, I usually don't recommend. It does sound like you are honestly a bit depressed about the situation, but I think that probably has more to do with your hormones than the actual situation itself.
If you haven't already, I would really suggest talking to your doctor about the whole situation, trust me, he's probably had the same converstation many times before.... probably at least once in the same day. If you happen to be going to a family doctor or a gyno when/if you go... they will definitely know how to help you lower your stress level a bit, and maybe feel a bit more happy about your situation.
Remember, pregnancy is a gift and a wonderful thing... the process sucks, but the end result is amazing.
2006-10-31 18:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by rainsinger 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
getting all self concious and worried is normal during pregnancy and your boyfriend is not going to see u as fat he knows u are pregnant so its not like hes going to think your 'letting yourself go'.
pregnancy is a beautiful thing and dont worry about what its going to be like after you have your baby, i was always small and skinny and pretty before i had my son and once he was born i wnt back that way.
my fiance actually think i am glowing and think si look gorgeous ( maybe he's just saying that) but i am 38 weeks pregnant with number 2 i have a small amount of stretch marks on my tummy and i hate it!
with my first baby i was so happy and proud by the way i looked i loved being 'fat' but now i can't stand it and cant wait to go back to normal! i think its all a part of pregnancy.
if you think u are huge now u have a big shock ahead of you because the average weight gain during pregnancy is 14 KG and i have put on 15KG.
juat try to see the positive side if your healthy eating well and taking your witamins and so on and your baby is healthy then everything is going to be fine.
if your boyfriend says your fat and ugly then he is being an asshole and dont listen to him. it's all worth it in the end. dont worry about your looks or your weight until baby is born theres nothing u can do about it until then.
good luck sweety!
2006-10-31 18:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, being pregnant is a beautiful thing, even if we women feel ugly in the process. It is normal to be unhappy with the way you look right now, but this too will pass. Focus on being healthy for you and your baby and forget about the way you look. You're going to grow bigger for the next 5 months, anyway, so let it go. As for your boyfriend, has he ever given you a reason to think he wouldn't like the way you look pregnant? You know him better than anyone. Most men I know think pregnant women are beautiful.
Try to relax and enjoy being pregnant
2006-10-31 18:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can relate :) My husband went on a TDY for a month when I was 4 months along. I was really REALLY showing when he got back when I was 5 months along. I was worried he would call fat and make fun of me but the minute he saw me he was SO happy. He rubbed my tummy and practically cried. He was just estatic that he could "see" that I was pregnant with HIS baby. He was So proud. Don't worry about it. I'm sure your boyfriend will feel the same way :0)
2006-10-31 18:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by mustangsally76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel when your body is not your own anymore. A lot of what is happening happens to us all but it all goes away eventually especially if you take good care of yourself and make sure you are getting what you and the baby needs. I don't think that your boyfriend will think your fat and if he does he really has no appreciation for what is going on in your body. It will most likely be all baby for you anyway. You really shouldn't worry too much about it. it will work itself all out....trust me I went through it four times and I'm 115lbs and still look good and I am no fitness queen the kids keep me busy and that's the key activity!!!
2006-10-31 18:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by D K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Issue 1: If he seriously goes off of you because of a natural, temporary process that is, um, kinda his fault, then he's a jerk. Some guys do have issues with pregnancy, and it's hard to predict what kind he'll be, but I doubt he will, if he's not shown signs of shallow scumbaggery before.
Issue 2: Absolutely some bloating and changes to your skin can be the result of hormonal surges. If you're feeling ill, then that can show in your looks as well. At your next checkup mention it to your doctor, and they can give you some advice.
2006-10-31 18:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by MissA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, babe...I just had a baby and I know how you feel. I bet you're still beautiful :) I'm almost pretty sure it's your hormones. Hormones are EVIL, especially while you're pregnant. Hey, if you're feeling too bad you should talk to your doctor. He or she might help lighten a load off your chest. Take care and congrats on the baby!!!!
2006-10-31 18:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by Renegade Rhianna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Sounds like you should get him a daddy book so he can understand the changes that your body is going through. I bet you're beautiful! Where maternity clothes, and everyone will know you are pregnant, not fat. Good luck.
2006-10-31 18:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the color of your skin is definitely a side effect from the increased hormones also that could be the reason you feel the way you do, you seem a little sensitive and emotional it could be the hormones. most men understand the way that pregnancy changes a woman's body and they accept it, if they don't then you don't deserve someone like that
2006-10-31 18:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by ya girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋