I get home from work a hour ago and my husband is already celebrating halloween and is drunk. So while Im getting the kids dressed up he is at the door handing out candy. I am thinking this is going to keep him out of trouble,right! WRONG. He ends up puking all over the little kids who are at our door trick or treating. He's passed out in the front yard at the moment and I am beside myself on what to do at this moment! HELP!
2006-10-31 09:49:39 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pour some fake blood on him to give the kids a good scare.
2006-10-31 09:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by cdrfish5000 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your primary job at this point is to protect your children. He's an alcoholic. You might try to deny it, but when your husband is passed out in front of you children, uh yeah, he's got a problem.
You'll need some support, maybe al-anon or comparative. Please get it, you'll both keep making excuses for his behavior, and the fact is-there isn't an excuse. When he realizes his marriage is in jeopardy, he may say he'll be clean, or even that he will quit drinking. I wouldn't necessarily believe him. This will just delay the inevitable. People just don't quit drinking.
There is also something unhealthy within you that is attracted to this behavior. Maybe a "need to be needed" or the drama. I don't know, but I'd start investigating this, too.
This problem is bigger than you, please get some help, don't wait.
2006-10-31 10:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Janet H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that this in an ongoing way of life. I am so sorry for you. You must remember that MOST people who drink that
way do so because of their own issues. However, that does NOT make it appropriate to embarass you and the kids like that.
I would suggest sharing how this made you feel and tell him you
would like him to do something about his drinking. If he isnt willing then you MUST do what is right for your kids........which
is to NOT have them witness their father puking and passing out
on the front lawn.
If this IS a one time incident then you must tell him that IF he
wants to drink on these types of events he must stay in the
garage or back yard.
2006-10-31 09:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for a person being that out of control. He needs to get into an alcoholic anonymous program. That doesn't help you for right now. Get him into the bathroom to clean up and close the door to keep him out of the way. When you have a chance, you can get him cleaned up and into bed to sleep it off. You deserve better. If he cannot get his act together, then you are punishing yourself and your children by having him around.
Best wishes.
2006-10-31 10:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and have him arrested, a good night in prison will teach him. Oh, and yeah for the love of God kick that man out of your house, why do you need a mean drunk around your kids?, let someone else deal with that trash.
2006-10-31 09:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by L M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
AT LEAST HE WAS AT HOME, If he has a drinking problem, Get him some help. If he is a good husband hang in and maybe you
can still have a good life together. It is not easy to be a single mom.
So think long and hard before you do something you will regret.
2006-10-31 09:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by bernice l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set some boundaries, don't allow what he is doing to control you,figure out what u want to do, set your course,and stick to it. be crystal clear on what you expect him to do and not to do, let him know there are consequences and than if he keeps doing the same things, after you have told him, than all u can do is divorce him. he needs to go to aaa, he is an alcoholic. get a good support system, maybe a co-dependancy group., put limits on what is bad in the marraige, tell him what you no longer will tolerate.
2006-10-31 10:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find a new husband. Lord who the hell wants to deal with a drunk? And for your kids to grow up around that? My dad was the same way but not as bad as that..although he did die from liver disease. So if you want to subject yourself and your kids to shti like that,,good luck...not a good idea. Get rid of him!!!
2006-10-31 09:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah or maybe if he is an alcoholic help find him some kind of treatment, well as long as he is wiling to do this. But I would kick him out if he didn't want any sort of help. and also does this type of thing happen often, if so, give him the boot.
2006-10-31 09:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by kendra dowson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me get this right...husband passed out on the front lawn and u have little kids needing to go trick or treating AND YOU ARE ON THE COMPUTER...what the heck kind of parent are u....
get out there with your kids and go trick or treating
leave the sorry guy on the lawn---he will eventually wake up and crawl inside.
KIDS COME FIRST...
2006-10-31 09:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋