My wife an i have now been separated for two months. I got frustrated with my step daughter and vented by yelling and using foul language to vent. I did not do this in front of my step daughter. We have mutal friends, thats how we met. We discussed this with them in great detail. Well after a couple of days after that sit down my wife and step daughter left. She has not talked to our mutal friend who was her best friend. Our friends an I still talk an hang out, but she has not said a word to them. I have told our friends many times it's my fault, but they say it's not that she did me wrong. I love them and would love to have them back. Can i get my family back and why does she avoid our friends?
2006-10-31 09:34:55 · 9 answers · asked by john d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why does she avoid your friends? You already answered that. They are sympathetic to you.
She probably feels she is protecting her daughter. You may have scared her.
Forget right and wrong and about your friends. You have to speak with your wife. It is only between you and her. Nothing else matters. It may take quite awhile and take some real convincing on your part that you can be a good father to her daughter.
Good luck.
2006-10-31 09:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Steve M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people are trying to figure something out or are running away from something they feel. It probably has nothing to do with you. In fact it never is.
Just remember the saying..."What other people think of me is none of my dam business."
She may be having a hard time figuring out what is going on with her and rather than staying around to figure it out, she is running away. First, give her time. A separation doesn't mean divorce. Just let her know that you still care about her and that she can take all of the time she needs and that you are there when she is ready to talk. Just be prepared if you are not what she is looking for. It doesn't mean you are less of a person, it just means you two didn't fit as you first thought.
2006-10-31 17:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends like that, who needs enemies. Can't blame your wife for feeling the way she does after the way you ran and cried to the so called friends.
2006-10-31 18:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray! Get some godly marriage counselling. The Lord restored my marriage that was almost failing.
Go to a Christian church. Go to a Bible Study. Build your marriage on the ROCK(Jesus)
You will see big major changes!
God Bless!
2006-10-31 17:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. you have a problem don't you. If you want your family back then go and get them back. If it requires sucking up then do it. That is what life is all about anyway. Ruunning away from a relationship or sucking up to keep it going.
2006-10-31 17:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows the answer. But fight and do like that is below any line of communication. Let her go and see later. Take a time and wait.
2006-10-31 17:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not blame her,its all her ,she did everything wrong,that's what your Friends say,why would she talk to them,I would find her,talk to her,tell how you feel about her,and don't talk to your friends about your life with her,that's her and your business.one piece of Wood don't make a Cross,GoodLuck!
2006-10-31 18:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she avoids them becuse somewhere inside she knows she was in the wrong,,as far as your relationship with her goes,,,thats for yu and her to work out,,
2006-10-31 18:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by westvirginiastar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it's none of their business and by the way the fault lies with you both.
2006-10-31 17:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋