i been though 10 years with one men 2 kids and 10years with other man and 1 child and married but seprated. i meet someone a month ago and i feel over heals with this man. i feel in my heart i love him and i want to be with him i want to divorce my husbend for this man. my children has meet him already. were talking about moving in with one other. i just love him i know i do. but the person i'm or use to be something says it might be to fast. what do u think.
2006-10-31 09:32:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you have the same feeling right now as your first man and your current husband when you first met them?
If so, you "love" someone relatively easy. That is another problem darn to happen again.
2006-10-31 09:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean this sincerely and not to hurt feelings.
I think that you need to seek professional help. It sounds like you have absolutely no self control or the sense that most adults have. Considering that you have children, this is very disturbing.
If you are considering a divorce in order to be with this person, I think the most important thing is that you leave your children with their fathers. To have them around a stranger like that is just ignorant and naive and you would be neglecting their best interest.
I don't know you but judging by the way your question was written, you sound very immature and almost mentally ill. I think your children should be in someone elses care and I think you need help.
Please whatever you do, don't involve your kids in this mess.
2006-10-31 09:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take more time to get to know this man. You might feel your clock is ticking, thats why your in a hurry. Love at first sight does exist. I'm a believer in that. Sometimes though the person who you fell in love with at first sight isn't the one you dreamed about. I know that from experience. Take your time get to know him personally a tad more. Maybe he is the one, Then again maybe he's not. Always think with your head not with your heart. Even though most of the time you follow your heart.
2006-10-31 09:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by urhomiesid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man that you've known for a month is the man you want to trust around your kids???what are you teaching your kids about making good choices?this isn't only your life and the decisions you make now can make or break your kids future.you must truly do what ever it is that is best for those kids or you will be sorry and so will the children and so will society.
2006-10-31 09:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep jumping ship.
It takes years to know someone. After a month you know the side of him that he uses to attract women.
When you are able to fart and go to the bathroom in front of someone is when you know them (THAT IMAGE REALLY KILLS THE MYSTERY).
It looks to me it take you 10 years to feel that you really know someone and then you jump ship to find something knew. You don't put in the hard work of finding something new in the person you know instead you just move on to someone else.
Go ahead and move on after ten years with you I'm sure the man is bored with you too.
2006-10-31 09:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything until your divorce is final AND you've been on your own for awhile. Whether or not you end up "with" this new guy, you'll never be sorry for taking some time off to heal - both for you and for your kids.
2006-10-31 09:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow way down. You just met. You can fool anyone for a month, even two or three.
Just enjoy his company for now. If you both feel like moving in together, then you can date for a while knowing that those feelings are there.
If after 6 months, a year, you still feel like you do today...go for it.
2006-10-31 09:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had any single alone time in those years? Or have you gone from one relationship to the next? It makes a difference. To me it sounds like you just move from one man to the next. Not healthy for you or your kids.
2006-10-31 09:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does your gut tell you to do? if you don't love your hubby then leave, or divorce, don't move your kids right in with someone else. that will confuse them. Be patient, it takes alot longer than a month to get to know someone...
2006-10-31 09:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be with someone whom you met a month ago... and even divorce your husband for this man?......lol.....lol......lol. Sorry. I'm back....
Do divorce your husband.... it seems that your "husband tolerance" only lasts for ten years. You do see a pattern there- don't you?
2006-10-31 09:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋