Ok my ex girlfriend and I had tried everything in the book to keep our relationship working! Her mom doesn't want us to have anything to with each other. Basically she thinks the thought of two chicks together is disgusting as she said in her own words..... and not to mention my age is a quite an issue! I really care about this girl! In fact I love her with all of my heart. It just happens to be that she is a little younger than me..... It may sound pervish but it's really not! I mean I am not some 35 yr old guy that lures 14 yr old girls into his home! In fact we're still both teenagers and old enough to have sex! But anyway the point is we've tried everything and her mom finds a way to ruin it! At first her mom didn't want us seeing each other so we'd sneak behind her back... the odds were a lot better then. Then she found all of my ex's and I's messages on myspace. And so she flipped out about that... So she didn't want us messaging each other or seeing each other.
2006-10-31 09:27:20 · 13 answers · asked by SmashJ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And everytime we found another way to communicate she's mess it up because the thought of her "baby" liking girls was too much to handle! Anyway I know this is too much for you guys! But the point is what is the honest likely hood of two girls who are so in love with each other now, still having feelings for each other in a yr and a half? And also do you think it'll work out? So is it possible?
I am a girl by the way. Both of us are girls, to get that straight. Thanks
2006-10-31 09:28:20 · update #1
Your relationship has every possibility of working out. A lot of parents don't accept things right away, so her mother freaking out like she is, is actually sort of normal. She has no right to be sneaking in her myspace and such but thats what you're faced with when a parent doesn't approve.
You can either wait it out if you think it's worth it, continue to see eachother and what have you, or you can just end it now... your three options. All of them easier said than done, I know belive me, been there, done that. But really though, your relationship does have the possibility of working out you just have to work toward it.
Try talking to her mother and explaining to her that the two of you are in love. A lot of adults dont think the younger teens know what the concept of love is, but just lay your feelings out on the table, and hopefully something good will come out of it.
Good luck
2006-10-31 11:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your relationship is possible. I suggest limit your communications for now, like phone calls, IM's or emails once a week instead of daily. You can always communicate the old way, ie, paper and pen, if u don't like the idea of not communicating at all on a daily basis. Atleast this way, she can always hide the letters from her mom and w/o her mom knowing. Same with seeing each other... maybe just do it twice a week or maybe once so that her mom won't get suspicious at all.
And then once you two are old enuf, u can always move out and have your life together (far away from parents and/or family if possible) and have your happy ending. You can do it, girl. Not to sound too cliche but if there's a will, there's a way. If u both love each other, then all things are possible. Just take it one day at a time and if u both work hard at keeping your relationship against all odds, then, it'll surely happen, someday. Just believe, have patience and have faith and hopefully, things will work out for you both. Good luck! ;o)
2006-10-31 17:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think...it would have been more easier for me to give yo an answer/advice had you mentioned your age. But since you didn't...I'll assume that you are still under 18. Therefore....do whatever you both possible can to keep som contact between each other for the time being. And just wait it out...basically till your 18 and then once you reach that age...it's not your mom's decision anymore and she can neither force you or tell you as to what to do. The law will be on your side..and you would have matured more both in age and experience. If your love is true & strong...it will stand the test of time. Therefore..don't give up hope...don't get hart broken and fold. The more stronger you stand up for what you want the more harder it becomes for anyone to do anything about it. So..good luck and don't give up what you want for anyone at anytime.
2006-10-31 10:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Citizen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years isn't an issue when you're both in your 20s or 30s, but when the youngest one is only 18 and by your own admission you want different things, I'd say there's a big issue. A 25-yr-old man is certainly at the age where he's advancing in his career and wants to be settled with a permanent partner, but at 18 you haven't even started at university yet and you'll change lots in the next few years.
2016-05-22 21:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty crappy situation... it's really too bad that parents can't be more accepting. I was a rebellious kid back in the day... you might try letting things cool for a while, have your ex butter her mom up with talks of change and crap and let her calm down a bit before trying to contact her again. Then after her mom's calmed down and thinks things are back to "normal" (grrr) she should start sneaking around with you again.. and this time do it right! Don't get caught. If you really care about her, and she really cares about you then you won't let someone's closed-mindedness get in your way. Good luck to you! Believe me, it gets easier when you are older and have your own place.
2006-10-31 09:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Des Demona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm neither gay, a teen or a parent, but I can tell you this... if her mother doesnt want you together dont you think you should respect her wishes until you are both old enough to do as you wish at college or in your own homes? The fact that you are attracted to eachother may not be that big of an issue once her Mom gets past the age thing, give it time. Definitely stop sneaking around you'll only get caught again.
2006-10-31 09:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
All things are possible. If the two of you are meant to be then things will work out, even if you have to take a break for awhile to sort things out. I'm curious about how old she is compared to you.. if she is under 16 there are issues involved with consent (depending on your state)... I'm just saying, if you are in your teens there is lots of time to take it slow, slow, slow -- and, if you are out of school, and she is still in school, it may be best to wait awhile before heating things up anymore! It won't stop love if that is what you have.
2006-10-31 09:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goddaughter is kind of going thru the same thing you are with her girlfriend, they broked up but they are still very much in love with each other. If you truly love each other something will work out so that you'll be together.
2006-10-31 09:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very tough, but it's possible. Get a hold of some of your local GLBT groups. Some people from those places might be able to help you two. I wish you two the best.
2006-10-31 19:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, but I think that if you guys love each other that much everything is nothing... and remember that when something is meant to be, the whole world conspires for u to make it... so good luck!
2006-10-31 10:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋