My husband and I have hit the "Dry Spell" lived together for 7 years and been married 2. Love making is not at the top of his agenda - how do i let him know it is on mine?
2006-10-31 09:24:40 · 10 answers · asked by cloe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sound like you have fell into a rut and the best way is to plan something completely different by planting the ideas in his mind by sexual notes in his pockets or on the dashboard of the car add more suggestions in his lunch or send email during the day. Plan a different place, new toys and plenty of time for your special time together, try role playing, sexual games etc. let your mind wander for new and different ideas. But remember the fragile male ego can be bruised easily so remember to seduce and stroke the ego vs. a frontal demands Good luck
2006-10-31 13:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let’s face it. It happens to almost all of us-- what begins as passion, ends in habit. So, is it too late to blow on the embers and rekindle the fire?
First, we need to understand what a sexual relationship is. Sex is communication. Like any dialogue between two people, sexual communication can be stimulating, intimate and deeply satisfying or it can be dull, distant and demoralizing. The way out of the boring trap is by learning how to listen and respond to your partner. Understanding what your partner needs and knowing how to meet those needs are the keys to successful sexual communication.
Through dialogue a couple can learn what each other’s needs are and how to meet those needs. There’s no avoiding it. If you want to rehabilitate a dull sexual relationship, you need to tell and show your husband, "I need to be touched here and in this way. This is what turns me on." Also, don’t be afraid to ask your husband what he or she needs.
2006-10-31 17:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. You need to tell him how you are feeling. Don't expect action based on that conversation.
Maybe something is bothering him and he doesn't want to say anything. Unless you communicate it simply isn't going to get better. Just tell him what is going on for you and if he does care about you, he will do something different.
2006-10-31 17:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
initiate everything....why do women think its the mans place to initiate sex? And when you do initiate..don't do the same things that you always do...hand him a leash and then show him the collar around your neck. Give him a ********. Hand him a can of whip cream and tell him you'll be waiting in the bedroom. HAVE FUN! or it will just be the same old same old
2006-10-31 17:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a collar and tell him from now on sex is on your schedule. Then make him wear the collar when ever he is home. If he doesn't satisfy you then he needs to be spanked.
2006-10-31 17:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight. dress up nice, put on his favourite dress for him etc. tell him u miss him, ask if he wants a massage. have a bubble bath together. go on a holiday. buy a vibrator and share it with him if thats ur kinda thing, good luck.
2006-10-31 17:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by genieejj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful honest and open communication works. Maybe he has issues with you as well. Gotta talk, people!
2006-10-31 17:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a few toys and let him watch.
2006-10-31 18:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by phone_man_at_work 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to drop his pants and put out,no seriously,intiate sex first.
2006-10-31 17:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seduce him...
2006-10-31 17:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋