why do people change after marriage? How difficult is it to keep the fire burning?
2006-10-31 09:13:48 · 12 answers · asked by Rochelle5969 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um....cause after marriage you are FAMILY. You wouldn't date a family member would you?
2006-10-31 09:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by jimjones3 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's really easy to take your partner for granted after marriage. People have to understand that keeping a marriage alive and happy takes work from BOTH partners. It's not easy, no one ever said it was. And is anything worth having really easy to get? Marriage is a great thing, it CAN be. But it is work. If your partner is really willing to be a partner in the relationship, it's so worthwhile.
2006-10-31 17:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by Shaun M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be a little like weight gain. You do not notice that you are packing on the pounds until you are a fat ***. In marriage, you do not notice that the excitement is waning until you are bored out of your mind. Recognize that things need spicing up before you get in a rut. Luckily, like the weight, you can always shed the monotony of the daily grind, and make marriage fun again.
2006-10-31 17:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they let marriage change everything. The rules, attitude toward each other. Some people think that once you're married the fun stops and it's time to be serious.
2006-11-01 02:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know looking back on it I should have a made more of an effort for us to have date nights, ad lest once a month. We have to kids so it was hard finding a baby sitter. But she did have her girls night out so I would just leave it @ that. But it's always a work in progress within a marriage, it doesn't have to be difficult.
2006-10-31 17:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things always change. But the fire does not need to go out if tended carefully, properly, and lovingly. That takes both partners. One partner can not keep the fire burning by themselves.
2006-10-31 17:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I still have designated date nights. Two or three times a month we declare a night as date night. We go to movies, or to dinner. But, people will always change as they get older and more comfortable with their spouse.
2006-10-31 17:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does take more work. And don't expect him to do all of that work. If you want something to happen, make it happen. If you want to date every week, then set the dates up. Let him know this is something you want and that you want his support.
Maybe he wants to do it to but has run out of ideas.
What do you like to do together? Go and do those things more often.
2006-10-31 17:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it not but something happen where doing the thing that you use to do is different my wife and i have a son and we use to go on drive trips all over the place just to get out . but now we sit at home and play with are son and do homework .. my wife and i are planing when are son is older to get away for a 4 weeks and now all we do is dream for that day..
2006-10-31 17:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because no one tell them better
and most of them married because they don't like dating
2006-10-31 17:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋