am i different?

Question

I like to hear about other peoples pregnancies and as i read this section i notice how everyone loves being pregnant. I must be so strange because i hate it.

Of course i love knowing there is a tiny person growing inside me and feeling baby move and listening to the babies heartbeat etc, but the rest of it is horrid. The sickness, the back ache, the tiredness, the way your belly feels like a brick, the spots i seem to get on my face, the uncomfortable cramps in the night. i just cant wait for the day my baby arrives and i can start feeling human again.

Am i the only person that feels this way?

Answer 1

I hate being pregnant

And I have wished for this pregnancy for years! i'm 34 and having my first after years and years of failing to conceive.

Then the miracle happened and to be honest its really hard.

For a start I feel sick ALL THE TIME. Not just the morning sickness which is supposed to go away after 3 months. I had it so badly for the first 13 weeks they had to give me anti-sickness medication.

I am now 34 weeks pregnant and STILL feel constantly sick! Anything little thing I eat will set me off, even a drink of water of a glass of juice. I wake up at night feeling terrible and for someone who has a phobia of vomiting its VERY hard to deal with. I'm scared to go out in case I start feeling ill.

Then I am so heavy and my stomach is so big. Have to pee all the time, certain smells make me heave that never bothered me before, agonising heartburn that makes me feel really ill and nothing seems to treat, I can't do anything, can't eat things I like, can't dance (I studied classical dance) can't even walk down the road without getting out of breath. Gone off sex, constantly worrying about whether the baby will be OK, worrying about the birth, worrying about money, worrying about whether we have all the things we need etc etc etc

I can't wait for my baby to be here. Yes I know its hard work but anything to stop feeling sick and tired and heavy all the time. I can cope if I could only feel normal again. Sometimes I feel ill rather than pregnant.

And the funny thing is - my mum had two kids and she said the same thing - she hated pregnancy and having us was the best part of it.

I feel like a freak for feeling so rough and hating pregnancy - all the pregnant women I've met seem to love it and be carrying on as normal with no bad effects.

So you're not alone. Take comfort from that. How long do you have left to go??

I guess those who love pregnancy either have really easy pregnancies or don't mind feeling like cr@p for nine months.

God knows what would happen if men had to have kids. I bet there would be fewer male anti-abortionists thats for sure!!!

Answer 2

NO!!! I am due in two days, and have been ready to stop being pregnant for months. Yes, I agree, it's cool knowing there is another person, a new life, growing inside me, but often times I just want my body back! There have been the great moments, like when she first started to move, or when I got to see the ultrasound, but overall, I have not truly had a fun time being pregnant, and as far as pregnancies go, mine has been fairly easy. I wasn't overly sick, just a little queasy for a while, with heartburn that wakes me up at night, but other than that, and some recent swelling of the feet, no real problems, just discomfort. I can't wait to start losing the weight I've gained (which has been A LOT), I can't wait to sleep on my stomach again, to be able to shave my legs and paint my toenails without help, and I have literally dreamt of drinking a margarita!! I know it will be worth it when I see my precious child, but I'm not sure it's a process I ever want to repeat. God love those women who have three, four, or more children they are stronger than me!

Answer 3

You are not the only person to feel like that.Even those who say they love pregnancy have to had some days where they were so uncofortable that they felt the same. Unfortunaltey your just one of the unlucky ones who is having a bad pregnancy. We all think that we can get through it well but at the end of the day no one person is the same and we all go through things differently. So look don't be upset with yourself because your not enjoying your pregnancy, but do keep reminding yourself that at the end of it all you'll have a fantastic new baby to love and cherish and when that happens you'll forget all the bad stuff. The important thing is that you arelooking forward to the little one coming!!! Good luck and enjoy being a mammy when the little one arrives!!

Answer 4

You really aren't alone! I hated being pregnant. I was sick 24/7 for the first 4 months, was the size of a bus and completely uncomfortable for the last three months. In fact i got more sleep after my daughtewr was born then the two months leading up to the birth. I also seemed to have every "side effect" going - carpal tunnel, odema, pre-eclampsia, the works. And no, no radiant glow either, just ankles the size of tree trunks.

Your baby on the other hand will be beautiful and perfect and you'll kinda forgive the pregnancy thing. (although i'm still not in a hurry to do it again any time soon!!!)

Answer 5

No, I've had 4 and haven't really enjoyed any of them. I've been told how sad it is that I can't enjoy them and that I'm missing out and all. But I find it misserable 99.9% of the time. I loved to feel my baby move until toward the end of the 4th time and then I didn't even like it anymore. The rest is just awful. I tried to convince myself during my 3rd pregnancy that it was good. And when people asked how I was doing, I'd say great. But it wasn't true. Not one bit. People thought I was doing better and all but I wasn't. I was sick all the time and you never know whats going to hurt next. It is all worth it in the end so keep that in mind. Obviously I think so since I've had 4 children. Try to enjoy the little things you can and not to complain too much so people won't avoid you and just focus on the goal. Good luck

Answer 6

I feel the same way hun! I dont think being pregnant physically is a good time... mentally it is great.. just thinking that a little person that loves you very much is growing in your belly. But other then that.. I am hating it too. I have never heard someone say they love cramps.. or back pain... atleast its only 9 months and then you have a lifetime to love someone that loves you just as much back! Keep your head up hun and try and have fun with this! Best wishes...

Answer 7

i hated being pregnant because my girl was huge struggled to carry her constantly in pain sick everyday till the last week boobs always hurt from 10 weeks it was awful i dread getting pregnant again i must admit the labour was the best part knowing i could finely meet the beautiful child in me the last few weeks of pregnancy i could not evevn walk she was so big when she kicked or moved her arms you could tell by the shape if it was a hand or foot i used to love that bit i admit i loved parts of it ie when she moved an i felt i had cramps in my legs all the time very bad back contractions from 28 weeks but you do miss the baby not being in you all safe an secure when you have them well i do any way good luck with your little one treat yourself now while you can an enjoy your pregnancy or what bits you can x

Answer 8

Personally, if it were under different circumstances, I might feel the same way as you do, but I don't. I feel blessed and I love it!

You see, it took me 4 years to conceive. So, when I go through my aches and pains, I always think that it could be worse. Of course, no one likes backaches, headaches, nausea, etc..., but I try to look on the bright side because this is what I truly wanted. I understand where you're coming from though and I'm sure other women feel the same -- it's not just you.

CONGRATULATIONS & good luck to you!

Answer 9

i had four and quite honestly there is nothing nice really about being pregnant, it's horrid when you feel ill. and big and are just wishing it away! Good luck, don't worry you are perfectly normal! It's the ones that have good pregnancies i worry about! I mean lets face it. having a bad pregnancy makes you realise how much you have to give up, those people who sail through it must have a terrible shock!

Answer 10

No. lots of women hate the bad things that come with pregnancy and just cant wait until its over.Dont worry it'll be over soon enough and you'll go back to your bright eyed ,thin,spot free self{as soon as the baby stops screaming for you at night of course.}
and all those other women who loooove thier pregnacy are hateing a few things too .
hope it gets better and the baby is healthy
Love Joyhope