Would you tell someone you know pretty well that their spouse is having an affair?

Question

Not a best friend just a friend

Answer 1

Out of respect for the friend, you should. I would normally tell you to mind your business, but if he/she is a friend, you have an obligation to say something. Make sure you use a lot of tact when you broach this subject.

Answer 2

I would be very careful here. My wife had an affair. I found out later that several people knew about it and didn't tell me. In truth, I don't think it would have mattered. I found out and she's gone.

And, how do you know the spouse doesn't already know? Unless you are really involved with this person in a very close way I would simply drop my judgment and move on.

Answer 3

YES. Definately. I don't believe these people who said they were worried about causing an argument or that they wouldn't be believed. Who cares it will all be revealed in the long run and you will be the true friend that we all need from time to time.I just wish someone had known and told me about my husband and the scrag it would have made a lot of things easier to understand at the time. Cheaters have a way of making you feel you have done the wrong thing. Please just tell them and maybe like in my case you can work things out. Things sometimes can work out better than they ever were if we just open up and be honest about everything. Go for it. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I don't think you should tell. Maybe the person will end the affair and try to be a better spouse. If you tell, they will never have the chance to do the right thing.

Answer 5

She needs to know most definitely, although I am not sure if it would spoil your friendship if you did. In a lot of cases the person who tells is the person who is thought of badly. I know its odd, but it happens. If I were you I would take a photo of the husband and the girlfriend together, put it into an envelope with her name on it and drop it into the letter box when you know she is there by herself. Be very careful though because the one who exposes an affair sometimes comes out the worst.

Answer 6

Well, I don't think so. My best friends in the world and I have a pact- we won't dime each other out, but we'd tell right away if we know the other's husband is cheating. But we're the best of friends through thick and thin. Someone you don't know that well, I'm going to go with no. Call me crazy but that's just territory you don't want to enter. If you squealed on me, I'd cut off one of your fingers.

Answer 7

Do you have hard proof and first hand knowledge of the affair? If so, then you have to consider how involved you want to get. If all you have is specuation or hearsay, then stay out of it. If your friend asks, then be honest about what you know, but don't bring it up yourself. Your friend probably has their own suspicions but not ready to confront it just yet.

Answer 8

Yesssss...you have to think about what would happen if this person found out that their spouse was cheating....and then found out that you knew about it and didn't say anything! If you are a friend and you know for a FACT that this is happening, you have to tell them. What is the roles were reversed and they didn't tell you??

Answer 9

Of course you have to tell your friend about it, it is not a matter of whether he is going to be mad, whether he will believe you or not it is a moral principle, your friend is ignorant of damage being done to him or her and you have to step up and tell the truth. You just have to be very careful with the words you use and try to be as nice as possible using words like "it is possible", " I am not completely 100% sure but" and giving some advice on how to proceed.

Answer 10

Of course not. Unless someone is physically in danger it is never okay to meddle in someone else's marriage. You could tell what it is you think you know and find yourself on the losing end. You can never tell how a person will react to that kind of news. More often than not it backfires on the one who tells.