My ex for 4 years cheated on me. I never thought he would do that. He just kissed another girl while he was away for business trip. It was a random girl he met a bar. He had to tell me cuz he felt so guilty and we always told each other everything. I forgave him but he doesnt want to be together anymore. He said he should be on his own and work on his problems. He was just out of college & it was his first job. He said he felt stressed out &pressured so much. He was not happy with his life & he started drinking and smoking to relieve this pressure. I didnt like what he was doing. I kept pushing him to stop &to dosomething better w/his money & time to relieve his pressure. He said I should be on my own as well to learn to be independent. We were always together for 4 years and over that time, I grew dependent on him for everything. Even if we broke up, we still talked & see each other because its hard to let go for both of us. Can we be together and help each other insteadofbreaking up.
2006-10-31 08:45:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I think you should move on. It's time.
2006-10-31 08:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same situation young girl in bar except he ended up dotting drugs real bad and there were more girls after 5 years. Well i fought hard to save what ever i could, i fought until i almost lost my self and who i am, what i believe in and Finlay in the end i had to let go it was him or my sanity and i chose my sanity and now i have met someone new and he is my night in shinning armory i am still waiting to wake up from my fairy tail dream and i haven't yet. What i have to say to you is there are better bees out there you don't have to live like that girl you deserve better.
2006-10-31 08:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by KEL971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him. You need to learn to be on your own for a while, as you said, you grew dependant on him for everything. Pressuring him probably didn't help the situation.
2006-10-31 08:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god no, make yourself busy go out with friends or family the right person will come along , don't settle life is to short... i forgave time after time cheating .. he never stopped , i wish you the best i know it's hard but if you settle you won't find the right guy who is waiting for you. and is gong to love you and make you feel wonderful always
2006-10-31 08:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 03:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by matlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels, if he loose the job - who is going to pay the bills. How you can survive or help him?
Maybe he wants somebody independent, successful and helpful.
You better do something or can be over.
2006-10-31 08:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same situation... If you really want to keep him in your life, help him relax.. Be there for him, but dont get pushy or needy... Get something to do on your own, and let him know, that you CAN live without him, but you dont want to...
And let him think it thru... if you give him space, and make him see that you can be with him, hell see himself obliged to analize the situation and decide if he wants to be with you or not
2006-10-31 08:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by ssota 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy - you're high maintenance!!! I agree with your b/f that you need to become independent....
Sometimes when we lean too hard on someone else....their shoulders and arms get really sore and too tired to hold us up anymore and they just want to get away from us......
I'd certainly smoke and drink if you were my g/f!!!
2006-10-31 09:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i should know it happened to me and my wife,and we are together helping each other with are problems.But if he does not love you than it will not work out.
2006-10-31 09:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by God R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it´s better to let him go because he wants to and more you keep it for yourself more he will push you away
2006-10-31 09:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by chiorean m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋