My boyfriend and I haven't cuddled or really been together for the past month because he lost his job and just plays video games until the early morning. What should I do? I don't want to be too demanding.
2006-10-31 08:42:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should try what I did with my husband. Try playing them with him. To some men this is a major sexual turn on. Women gamers are far and few between but it is a lot of fun. Maybe he is depressed and this cheers him up since you say he lost his job. Try seriously finding something that you can play together. It will hopefully help you spend some time with him on his own terms.
2006-10-31 08:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by carmadsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know thats a hard one, perhaps playing games is a way hes getting out his aggression and frustration at being in the position he is (jobless) and its helping him deal with it.
I would compromise with him if i were you and just tell him you dont have a problem with him playing but youd like for him to take a little time out of the day to pay attention to you. Maybe that will do the trick. See if he can put the games on pause for a few hours an evening so you two can spend some time together.
2006-10-31 16:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by falling_down23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into something slinky and sexy and connect the control pad to you... I leave it to your imagination, music and entice him to bed. He needs to feel he's in control of things. so serious sex could bring him around but on the other hand...
Ok he's had a month to pout & use the video games as stress reliever. But sounds like freeload. Does he do anything to lighten your load of chores ect... What is he doing to change his employment status?
Go out with friends to some activity that doesn't cost a dime. Even if u go over friends home to watch a rented film, play some card games or just chill to music. If he doesn't want to help himself then ur looking at more than too many hours of video games.
2006-10-31 16:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day you make demands on his time during his recreation, you will have to expect that he will do the same to you.
The most common reason any man leaves any woman is when the woman begins imposing on the man's freedom. If you want more time with him, ask for it, but don't demand it.
I know for myself, I used to be a game junkie, but I haven't spent more than 15 to 20 minutes with a game in about five years. I grew out of it...but whatever girl I may have been with at the time who insisted that I give up what I like to do is long gone without a second thought, in favor of a woman who respects that I have other interests in life besides my relationship.
Why not try to share this interest with him?
2006-10-31 16:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love video games, but I found out that even though its late and your wife will be asleep it still isn't OK to play games until 5am in the morning. Don't know why must be a wife thing.
Let him know that him spending evenings in bed with you is one of those "Request for attention" issues. No man can in sane mind refuse a wife that wants attention without inviting all of the unpleasantries which go along with that.
Don't get into competition with the games. You will win, but it could feel like coercion and create resentment. Remember he plays for fun. Just because they are insignificant to most women doesn't mean that it isn't important to him, sometimes games are truly a release for people.
Be ready to compromise. Believe me you've got the real goods.
2006-10-31 16:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Big Marc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really needs to know he has to get off his *** and get a job. Right now he is probably feeling sorry for hiself and disconnected from the world. Why dont you spend all your time doing something that doesnt interest him. Go shopping for hours, do something like go out with your girlfriends and not invite him. He is spending so much time alone. Do the same and see how he feels. Start neglecting him. Dont cook or clean for him make him do it hiself. Be your own woman and remind yourself of what you did before you had a bf. Cus as of the last month you havent had one.
2006-10-31 16:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by vidamar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about being understanding. He sounds very depressed and is retreating into video games as an escape.
You need to talk to him, let him know you are there for him. Even maybe take his attention from the games. It might sound demeaning but its about him not you: while he is playing games, give him fellatio. He might switch his focus from the game to you.
If he is normally like that or always out of work, then he is just a lazy bastard and you should get rid of him.
2006-10-31 16:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you throw a spin into the situation. Get on a sexy outfit and stand in front of the tv and ask him if he could put the controller down and play with you for a bit instead. I bet he may just go for it. Tell him that you need more attention from him. And, if he does this, you guys can play together alot more! If he doesn't go for it, he may be gay....lol, j/k
2006-10-31 16:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't want to be demanding then I guess you will have to put up with it. He is too comfortable in your relationship and is taking your for granted. For every hour he plays video you take an hour away from him. See how he likes it when you are not at his beck and call. Hopefully he is not shacked up with you and you are paying the rent.
2006-10-31 16:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He either leaves you, or leaves those video games. Some guys are like that. They are so obssessed with video games they even forget about you. Give them some time and their own space. When they get bored, they will spend time with you again. Imagine if it was you.......if you enjoyed something you would want to spend time on it too.
2006-10-31 16:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋