i feel like i am about to loose it? does anyone know if there is any support groups in Killeen for people who have cheating spouses!
2006-10-31 08:37:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheat on him
2006-10-31 08:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you allowed threesomes, you showed him that you did not value your marriage vows, your bed or the sanctity of your marriage. Now I know it was not just you, but by giving in, you made it easy for him to no longer value those things. I am sure he does not have a real hard time cheating now and that is because he was able to cheat on you with you right there... Why should he feel bad about getting some on the side...
As far as a support group, I do not know of one that would help, but I will give you my advice. It may be too late, but it sure is worth a shot. If you love him and you honestly believe he loves you, then you need to get someone to watch the kids for the evening. You need just the two of you to go someplace where you can talk with out any interuptions. Turn the cell phones off, no waiters, no traffic, just the two of you. With all the hurt and concern in your heart, you need to tell him that the cheating has to stop right now. You also need to tell him that threesomes have destroyed the very foundation of your marriage and they are gone as well. Then you need to tell him that you are willing to forgive his cheating and ask for his forgivness for allowing the threesomes (even though it is not all your fault, do it), and tell him you want to get your marriage back to ground zero and start from the beginning. A new commitment to eachother, new honesty, new vows if necessary. Make it very clear that any further cheating is completely unacceptable and that it has to just be the two of you from now on. Tell him is he is not willing that you will file for a divorce because you deserve to not live a life like that. Don't give in on that, make the demand, it changes or you are gone. You also need to make it clear to him, this is a permanent change, not just a month, a year or couple of years... You need to get right with eachother, get right with God and the need for the mental docs, neo's and support groups will go away....Be strong....
2006-10-31 17:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure a support group for wives is the answer. You and he need to get counselling together to save your marriage, or at least you need to have some serious talks together - you need to decide whether to stay with him or not if he continues to cheat. And if you decide to stay, then I don't think you'll need a support group - staying is a message that it's okay. Think about it!
2006-10-31 16:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a support group? All you need is enough backbone to end the relationship with the cheater, and that has to come from yourself. Until you stand up for yourself, nobody, and no group can help.
2006-10-31 16:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is called Divorce Support Group.
2006-10-31 16:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why a support group? Just leave.
2006-10-31 17:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating, then I would either pack my things and leave him a note on the kitchen table, or pack his thing, leave them on the front porch, and get the locks changed. Sounds like he's a user, who does not think his wife has enough self respect and/or confidence to stand up to him. He will keep doing this to you until you put your foot down, and he sees you're serious.
2006-10-31 16:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe first of all try to calm down i know ur hert, angry, and desparete u probably feel like killing him and probably feel like ur trapped u cant breath the wold is coming down on u crying sceaming all alone hopeless and many many more i know is not fare ur going through a bad time in life but its not the end of the world. u need to get away from him b strong dont let ur self go think and think but think positive bout the time you know it it will b long gone bad history in ur life i know ur probably thinking is easy to say STOP THERE! cause it is be ur own sycologist it starts by being strong dont forget he hert you you neva hert him so theres know guilty consious. part from trusting him and allowing him i ur life. move on ok. good luck.
2006-10-31 17:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by erin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated to the point of no return than you need to get counseling but also know that he knowns what he is doing!!!!
2006-10-31 16:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but how about contacting the local church for help and support (someone to talk to). .
I'm very sorry to hear about it.
2006-10-31 16:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋