I am a lesbian. and my friend who i thought was str8 recently just got divorced and now she is all over me all the time... but im not attracted to her this past weekend I had sex with her just becuz Well i needed sum and i was bored. lol yes bad i know. but anyway I dont want to hurt her but i want to make it clear there is no future with us in that kind of relationship.
2006-10-31 08:37:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh girl, sleeping with her was not good. I've been in her position. When a married woman finally wakes up and comes out, there is a period of time that I refer to as "my teen time". I felt like dating, sex and everything related was all new again. I dated a lot of women during that time, until I finally started to act my age (36 at the time) and thought with my head. And I'm not sure if you're her first, but that person is very special. She needs to find a community and she needs you to let her down easily. Apologize for taking advantage of the easy sex, and tell her point blank, that it just won't work. But that you'll help her find her place within our community. Have a party, introduce her to friends, show her the local hangouts and community resources. Coming out after being married is a difficult and confusing time. I guess coming out at any time is difficult and confusing. Be a true friend and help her through. And if you want to keep your friendship, then stay out of bed!
2006-10-31 08:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by momaab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her the truth .... she'll probably understand ... tell her that what u did was because u felt bad for her being divorced and everything and that u really dont think u two should be together..... and if u still want to be her frnd, well u better find a really good excuse... considering u dont want to hurt her feelings........ try and get her to like some1 else... introduce her to some1 else so that way she'll forget abt u and u wont be hurting her feelings either...
ok... i knw i giv horrible advice, but that was all i think i wud do if i was in ur place...
Good luck and hope everything goes well!!
2006-10-31 16:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by D.P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was having sex with her bore or not, you should have been straight with her from the beginning. Now it's going to be harder to talk to her about your feelings, but you have to let her know that there's nothing but friendship between you and her and make it very clear to her. Good Luck!
2006-10-31 17:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell..her that your not ready to get into a serious relationship with her or any other women. But....that you can be friends with benefits, meaning that you can have sex with no strings attached during those lonely nights. And that's all you can offer to her,
2006-10-31 18:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Citizen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why just not suggest you only want a casual relationship at the moment and dont want to get to involved just now because of personal problems. Is it you she divorced for? if so you in deep gung babe.
2006-10-31 17:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably just lonely. Straight girls who have been hurt by men try women out sometimes. Just be honest with her. Tell her you will be her friend, but nothing more. If she doesn't accept that, she loses a friend I guess.
2006-10-31 16:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bleh just find excuses not to meet and hopefully she'll get over it eventually. Maybe hook her up with some guy in couple of months.
and remember this case next time when you "need sum and are bored"
2006-10-31 16:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her exactly what you put here so that she knows what kind of friend you really are.
2006-10-31 16:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Spyder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋