My work situation has me away from home M-F. I have been at this schedule for three months now, but it is getting harder. I got in with my dream company, but I have to go through this year long training and I am really starting to struggle. Any help from people who have been in my situation please help!
2006-10-31 08:36:36 · 20 answers · asked by Paka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is my wife that I am away from. Daily phone calls are only a short term fix.
2006-10-31 08:39:28 · update #1
My husband and I did it for about 6 months and we have a baby girl. We tried to talk on the phone whenever possible even if it was only for a minute we would try to do that a few times a day. We would send each other text messages too, just to say "I love you" or "I miss you" We were able to see each other every 4-6 weeks. That helped a bit. The biggest thing is to trust each other and keep reminding yourselves that it is only temporary. Things will soon be better and the sacrifices will be worth it in the end.
2006-10-31 10:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try video calling. At least you will be able to see each other, though some people it makes sadder.
Try getting together on week ends, or taking a trip together, meeting half way so you both can make the best use of time. My friend just did that a couple of times. The idea is to improve the quality of the moments you spend together, so you can both go back recharged.
2006-10-31 08:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by paanbahar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do things to keep you occupied. Being away from the ones we love is never easy, and the things that people suggest will only be what you called them, short term fixes. Apart from chalking it up to bad luck and moving home, I think that short term is all you've got going for you. When my husband was deployed, I had to find things that would keep me occupied. I read a lot of books, started to keep a journal, went for walks, started working out at the gym consistently...these are things that you can do to distract yourself from your current situation. Good luck to you!
2006-10-31 08:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have personally been through this many times. Even though it is going to be hard and sometimes very emotional, try this technique I learned. If you have a web cam make sure he/she does and talk to each other every chance you get. Also for those long, lonely nights, phone sex and web sex with only each other helps alot. Bring many pictures and mementos for keepsake. II also recommend that you don't constantly think that your sig. other is cheating because you will become miserable. Hope this works.
2006-10-31 08:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by hotkei02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are home make film you and her.Make two copies and you can call her and tell her to play it at the same time and you can have fun together. If it gets to rough ask her to move with you whereever you are because you cannot stand being away from her. I am assuming your training is not in the same place she is in. If she has job obligations it would be best to go with having lots of lots of IM or phone sex. Maybe send her flowers every week when you are away.
2006-10-31 09:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by vidamar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say emerse yourself in work. Treasure the time you have on the weekends. Talk to her as much as possible. Keep pictures of her handy, even it means in your cell phone or wallet. Email, or even better chat via web cam. Consider asking her to travel to meet with you, or even just stay the night, if at all possible. Take up the lost art of writting love letters. Record romantic messages and mail them home, or if you have an electronic recorder, email them. Seperate yourself from any tempting behavior. Do not allow yourself to fantasize about other women. Make copies of family photos or travel with a photo album, maybe even the wedding album
2006-10-31 08:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
M-W-F go to the gym run for an hour then lift for 45 minutes, ur tired and can sleep easy. Tues rent a flick or make it a point to write her a letter of how much u miss her, Thurs, hell be excited its almost time to see her, or else take a college course, ur never to old to learn. either way it is only 5 days.
2006-10-31 08:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by erker34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar, I would take lots of walks in the evening to clear my head, go back to the hotel and chat with my wife over the web-cam. It really helped when the kids could also chat with me and see that I was still alive and well, plus it kept me from going crazy also.
2006-10-31 08:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter every week or two about how you feel, but don't send it to her. Take pictures of the places you've been and save little things of where you've been, like hotel napkins and company pens and such. It'll be like a small documentary of what you've been doing. Then you can give it all to her when you see her next.
2006-10-31 08:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my hubby is away for wks at a time so i no how hard it can be.
we talk daily on the phone too but this isnt always enough.
we both have mobile phones so we txt each other sexy messages too. try having sex over the phone its a great way to relieve yourself and makes you feel close too even if it is only for a short time.
2006-11-01 01:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋