will be screwed up? Something I saw in my marriage and I can't forgive my husband for this. How do I?
2006-10-31 08:26:23 · 13 answers · asked by elaine_brc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The roles in a marriage are no longer defined by sex. A woman can be the head of household, but today, it is usually more 50/50. As far as the government is concerned, who ever makes more money, is the head of household.
2006-10-31 08:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously talking from a Bible stance because in this day and age a marriage is about the union of two equal adults and no one person should hold the reigns. Yes, in the Biblical sense, the man should be the head of the household, but does that mean a man is allowed to beat his wife just because he holds that title? Does that mean the husband can sexually abuse their children just because he holds the power? A man will lead, not abuse. A man will do the right thing, not the wrong thing if he is to be taken seriously. A man will love his wife as he loves himself if he is to be a proper leader. If he is doing wrong, then he doesnt deserve to be head of the house. Dont just pick out certain parts of the Bible. The Bible also tells you how a person is supposed to treat another person, and if that person is doing the wrong thing, regardless of whether he is a man or a woman, then it is wrong, no two ways about it. God would not condone a man using their position to do the wrong thing. I am sure you need to read your Bible a bit more thoroughly to understand your rights as a human being too.....and you do have rights. You have the right to live peaceably, without abuse, without fear. If something your husband has done is bad, then he needs to be confronted on it. If you forgive him and say nothing then how are things ever going to change....he will think he can do or say anything without learning about consequences. There are consequences for everything we do and if we hurt another person, then there needs to be consequences. Show your husband that there are consequences...talk to him, tell him it is unacceptable.
2006-10-31 16:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is screwed up, then why put yourself through that? Instead of spending time and energy on worrying about forgiving your husband, spend your time on yourself. Go to a day spa, enjoy having people wait on you hand and foot, be a Queen for a day.
Stop worrying, enjoy the time that you have on earth and you will be a happier person. Good luck.
2006-10-31 16:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A marriage should be a contract between two people that both promise to love , cherish, and be faithful to the other.
If that contract is broken.....for any reason.....then the body....as you call it....perhaps could be severed from that head.
The concept of the husband being the head of the house hold is as old as human kind. But it is a flawed one....one sided...and serves only one of the partners.
2006-10-31 16:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biblically the husband is to be the priest of the home or the head and the family is the body. However, the wife has a responsibility to hold her mate accountable. If Satan has gotten ahold of your husband you cannot let him take hold of the rest of your family.
2006-10-31 16:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the head of household because he makes more money. I am the head of the family, I make most of the decision. you need to work as a partner, if you are good in certain area, you should be in charge, can't depends on him for everything.
2006-10-31 16:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Discovery 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes the man is the head -he should be and if he is missing it then all are effected, inevitibly. the head of the man is christ,and if it's not that way it will be extremely difficult, the way it sounds your ready to get out and if ur not sure get a lagal seperation to protect yourself, i gaurantee you will be glad u did! and if i'm reading this right you have legal grounds for a divorce, get a lawyer quick.
2006-10-31 16:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by grace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
husband is the head but wife is a neck which moves the head :-)
2006-10-31 17:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean by screwed up?
If you can help your husband!!
Support him!!!
If not it's over and let go and move on!!
No one is perfect, we all need help!!!
2006-10-31 16:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you mean head of the house? or head of household? we like to let them think they are. but i keep a close watch to make sure sh_it is done right the first time...
2006-10-31 16:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋