My girlfriend of seven years has been cheating on my!!!?

Question

Can love still exist if she cheated on me. I still love her very much and she said that she would never do it again. She seems very upset about the fact that she did it. I never thought she would, but she did. I love her and don't want to lose her. What can I do?

Answer 1

Is she upset about the fact that she did it or the fact that you found out about it? Figure that out and then you'll be able to make a better decision. Even if she never does it again, will you be able to trust her again? Can you live with the thought that she was with someone else? Can you forgive her?

This are all questions you need to answer. Be truthful with yourself.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

My wife confessed to cheating on me some 6 years after it happened. I was way pissed at first, but did not make any rash decisions, thought about what has happened since then, and decided that she truly was sorry and was really an amazing person, and while I am sure I could find somebody else did I want to. that was 7 years ago, now looking back I can truly say It was the best decision I made, as she continues to rock my world, u just have to get rid of it all together, do not ever bring it up out of anger, its gone u cant change it anyway so drop it.

Answer 3

No doubt love can still exist even after someone cheats on you, but the question is, can you trust her. Sure you can say that you trust her, but when she walks out the door, do you wonder, do you suspect? If you can truly trust her and have confidence that she will be true from here on out, then yes it can all work out, but, if you are going to wonder, worry, check up and dig to see if she is at it again, then you just as well end it now because you will be miserable for the rest of your life. So will she...

Answer 4

Sounds like a 7 year itch without the marriage. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but it is really hard to fix something like that because a trust was broken. Suppose you get married or whatever, and then she calls and says she has to work late. What's going to go through your head when you hear that? It's hard to recover from something like this. Even if you forgive her, you can't really trust her anymore. The ball is in her court, however. Maybe she can convince you if she tries hard enough. Good luck.

P.S. Of course love can exist if she "cheated" on you. Love is unconditional and speaks to her happiness, not yours. Nobody loves unconditionally however, not even Mother Theresa.

Answer 5

if u love her and she is sorry and u believe in her than give her another chance but waiting to trust again is wise, she has to earn your trust first. hurt takes time to heal, first you can't just rush back into trust,the hurt u feel needs to be exposed and communicated. ask her to go to tharapy and find out why she did this. u have to also set boundaries, you must make it perfectly clear what you will not live with. boundaries always deal with u and not the other person, your just saying what u will do or what u won't do.boundaries aren't about controlling the other person.what u say to her needs to be clear to her and spoken in love. let her know that there will be consequences if it ever happens again, and if she does it again you must be prepared to go through with it, and end it for your own sanity.everyone deserves a second chance if they want one and are willing to acknowledge a wrong was done.

Answer 6

there's nothing much you can do, she cheated. if you just forgive her , you will not be able to carry on the same with her. you will never forget that she did this to you. it will be like a slap in the face everyday. everyday you look at her , you will see this other person all over her. and do you want to talk about the trust issue? how could you ever trust her again? you will doubt everything she says or does. but good luck , i wish you happiness again.

Answer 7

You can always take her back if you truly love her...the question is will you ever be able to trust her again and also will you be able to have a normal sex life now knowing that everything she's done to you, she's done to him...It may hurt to let her go now, but it might be better for you in the long run. Don't extend your pain to try to make it work, just do what you feel is best for you and your "self-hood." Good luck and best wishes!

CJ

Answer 8

LOVE has lotsa bumps in the road. Here, you either decide whether its worth it or not to forgive. It IS possible. You don't sound like you are wanting to give her up. Getting trust back in her is going to take lots of time and effort on both of your parts. Don't make yourself just jump right back into what you once had. It's different now, because she betrayed you. That doesn't mean it will be worse, though. GL ♥

Answer 9

If your Girlfriend cheated on you and she says that she would never do it again? well you should believe her. My best suggestion is that you follow you heart and forget what people say, it all up to you. I dont see why you need other peoples advice. Is it that hard to find out yourself? ( not to be rude)

I've been there and my boyfirend accepted me back. I tol him that I will never cheate on him again and I really met ever word. Up to this day I haven't cheated on him.I love him that much to change that for him.

Answer 10

Same thing happened to me, Bra - and I was dumb enough to give it a second try - and she cheated again. Now that I'm over it and a few years smarter - I realize that saying is true, once a cheater.... is true to a point. Instead of working on whatever was wrong in your relationship. she jumped ship. Personally, I wouldn't be able to be near her for a while and trust her again? Not likely.
But Good Luck to you, Bra, if you decide to try and work it out!
Aloha!!