Or should i expect my husband to pay for me. Specially for ladies what would you expect or not, Would you like to work after or stay home?
2006-10-31 08:11:01 · 13 answers · asked by Fantasy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because you get married doesn't mean your partner should take on your financial burdens. They should be shared evenly. Yes you should work, unless he, or she doesn't want you to.
This answer is from a man.
2006-10-31 08:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last thing you want to do is burden your husband with your debts. It is irresposible to expect someone else to pick up your slack. The only way it would be okay is if you were completely honest with him about you expectations that you expect him to pay off your debt and you expect him to maintain your lifestyle after marriage. If he doesn't know before going into the marriage then you have deceived him.
I have found that a relationship that is based on equality thrives. You don't want to be dependent on your husband for anything but love and support. It is a smart and considerate move to keep working and pay off your debts. Plus it shows your husband that you have some character.
2006-10-31 16:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to you husband about it? It is a big issue with married couples. The biggest cause of divorce is financial problems. You need to sit down and figure out what will be best for you. My husband works and I stay home with our two girls. We don't use credit cards. We pay cash for everything to keep from getting in debt.
2006-10-31 16:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to work. I enjoy working and love the independence of having my own money. My husband wouldn't care if he paid my credit cards, I paid them or we paid them. I'm lucky that we don't have money / power issues that some couples have. But if it were me, I'd work to pay my own credit cards.
2006-10-31 16:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After marriage isnt an issue for me, but I'd like to stay home after we have kids. I dont see us being able to afford for me to stay home so we'll have to see, but who knows. Maybe you can work until the kids come and have your debts paid off before then.
2006-10-31 16:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should work to pay off your own debt, even if he can afford to. As a woman, you need to be responsible for yourself and able to take care of yourself. It's wonderful to have a man to share your life with and build a future together...but what if something bad happens?
2006-10-31 16:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by loshea65 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that all depends do u havekids if so then maybe yeah u look after them at home while he works and pays your credit cards off but if not then u really should work
2006-10-31 16:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what the heck would you do all day?Are there kids to take care of, if not get your butt a job and never depend on anyone to take care of you, what would happen if something happens to him, heart attack, accident what will you do then. I got maried 5yrs ago and he makes enough money I do not need to work, we have no kids, do not plan on having any, I went to university to get an education what a waste of money it would be and what will I do with that knowledge, plus I would be bored out of my skull, I hate daytime tv and I do enough shopping already.
2006-10-31 16:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by moglie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you married a rich guy then let him pay all your bills. if you married a normal guy then work until your personal debts are free and clear. Caution, don't get pregnant before you are out of debt or he will always resent your foolishness
2006-10-31 16:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say work so you can pay em off faster and then start going on exotic vacations and enjoy life.. rather than being in debt Forever
2006-10-31 16:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋