i have a problem.my parents are very abusive and i still have 3 years to live with them.how do i solve this problem without tearing the 'family' apart?i dont want to cause problems but i want out because its begining to be dificult to keep my cool about all this.i mean ive got enough problems without them contributing.i really just need someone to talk to.ive been raped and i cant tell my mom cuz she already calls me horrible names and what not.so what do i do?
2006-10-31 08:07:54 · 18 answers · asked by maggie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I can understand completely where you're coming from. My mother has hit me, called me names, etc. I was raped as well and when I finally said something she said I was too dramatic about the whole situation and she had worse things she could complain to me about. Needless to say, her last words to me were "you ruined my life, I want to forget you ever existed." That was the last straw and I moved in with a friend at age 16. I started seeing a counselor and with his help and anti-depressants for my anxiety I have seen improvements. I still have a lot of anger and resentment but I know that years of abuse can not be healed over night. The first thing I would do in your situation is go to a school counselor to evaluate the situation and go over you options whether it be live with another family member, have your parents come in for a counseling session, etc.
2006-10-31 13:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible!! All i can say is to call the police or a hotline and let them know what is going on. If it continues then take action. Get out of there, its not safe! You shouldn't have to deal with that, well no one should actually. Live with someone you trust such as a friend or family member. Good Luck and keep yourself safe, and if I were you I would tell someone that you got raped. It will only hurt you emotionally if you don't.
2006-10-31 08:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by jlynn0390 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest family counseling,but they probably would'nt go. Find someone mature that you can trust to talk to. I don't want to seem rude but it sounds like your family is already torn apart. if your life or health or well being is in danger I would get out of there. Find a legal way, don't run away. Is there a close relative or friend that you could live with?don't let your rapist get away with what he did. you will always regret it if you do. he deserves the maximum punishment allowed by law.
2006-10-31 08:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by lisaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just when I think I have it bad - - you really need to talk to someone about this. You didn't give details on your rape (who did it and when) but your mother needs to know. Talk to a school counselor, another family member, or if it's bad enough, talk to the cops. Nobody Nobody Nobody deserves to live like that. I was once in a similar situation and felt the same way about "tearing the family apart" but you have to stand up for yourself and put a stop to this abuse. Please don't keep quiet.
2006-10-31 09:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by mms1575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i'm sorry. that's really terrible, and your parents are obviously NOT doing their job if you can't even tell them that you've been raped. What I would do is find someone who you trust, especially if you're at school. Principals, counselors, and even teachers, can help you sort out your problems. They can help you decide what to do, and if they interfere, the family can't get mad at you. You really need to solve this problem, because living with your family is not necessarily the best option for you. If i were you, i would tell someone trusted tomorrow, so that they can help and fix your life as soon as possible. Good luck, and I hope that you feel safe and loved as soon as possible.
:-)
2006-10-31 08:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by love2polkadot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, what a problem. It's hard when you can't go to the one person who is suppose to be there no matter what. I would try to see about living with another family member if possible. Sit down and talk to your parents about this. It can't get better if you don't try. I'm sorry you have gone through this. I was in a similar situation when I was younger. All I can say is don't loose faith, it will get better.
2006-10-31 08:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry!! I hate to say this, but I think you will have to call the police or an abuse hotline. You could also go live with a family member or a good friend.....Good luck and May God bless you.
2006-10-31 08:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by lil_danca06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i know what u goin through is hard my friend went to the same only that she got pregnant her boyfriend ask her to abort or he will leave her so she jus broke up with him her mom throw her out of the house now she is a single mom alone.. well u dont have an aunt or cousin u trust in that u really closed to.. maybe they can help u out.. just keep it up ok and dont give up good luck
2006-10-31 08:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Eva L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD DAMN!!! My home life is just as bad if not worse than yours. I found outlets for my problems, i played sports, i smoked ALOT of weed, find some one you can relate to, get a caring boyfriend or something. But dont put up with your parents ****, stay strong and youll pull through this. All the luck in the world.
KG
2006-10-31 08:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by The infamous bongblaster 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i highly suggest that you go to a close relative who can help you seek counselling. i know this may be difficult because that relative might talk to your parents about it. if not a close relative, a social welfare agency within the community who can help you. you need to speak out about what happend to you. dont let your life get more miserable by keeping it to yourself. it may be hard to make a move without someone's help most especially your parents not helping you. you only have yourself to help you. make your way out of that pits.
2006-10-31 19:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by z0e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋