Well, she was at the store with me and I was getting a few things for the car and as we walked out she saw a Coke drink machine and asked if she could borrow a dollar to get a diet coke. I told her not tonight sweetheart and then she started saying "please" really sweet and I just held her hand and lovingly but firmly said not tonight sweetie. Then she asked me why and I told her it was kind of late and I didn't want her having all that caffeine before bed. Then she started saying how I never let her do anything fun and all this. I told her that wasn't true and she needed to cut it out right now with that. Well, she stuck her tongue out at me. I know she was playing around but I felt like I had been more than enough patient with her and she needed to listen to me when I said she needed to cut it out. Well I told her she couldn't watch tv for three days because it was probably some commercials on tv that caused her to want to drink so bad. Was I overexcessive in the punishment?
2006-10-31 08:04:23 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife is a adult. Start treating her as one.
2006-10-31 08:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I must have misread the question. I thought you said "wife" but you must have meant "child". Ok I don't think you should really be monitoring the amount of caffeine that your spouse drinks unless there is a health condition, and then to punish them by limiting TV. How would you take if if you had too much sodium and then you couldn't listen to the radio- a little silly right? I am sure she wanted a husband, not another daddy.
2006-10-31 08:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if this is gonna sound bad but i had to read your question three times to make sure i read it right i mean your talking about your wife not your child i mean where did you grow up?I live in Greece and here the men used to grow up believing they are their wife's keeper and some men still do believe that(not mine thank god)but i have never heard of something so so wrong.I believe you can not go around treating your wife as if she is a 5 year old.Cant you see shes already starting to react to it maybe it was nice in the beginning how you took care of her and all that but maybe now its starting to get on her nerves i know i would.Shes your wife let her express her self ,give her opinion of something before she leaves you.My husband would never say to me not to watch TV for 3 days not even for1 it is totally wrong that's something you say to your kid.look at your wife better and try to listen to her instead of making her do whatever you want.A marriage is 50-50 not100-0.I think Ive made my point and again I'm sorry if my opinion insult you.
2006-10-31 08:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Elennie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't believe you have the right with or without consent to "ground" your wife. You have a control issue.
If your wife has to "borrow" a dollar from you to buy a coke, there is definitely something wrong in your relationship, you promised and vowed in front of witnesses to share your life together.
Unless your wife has a mind of a child, she should be able to make decisions on her own.
Assuming she is sound of mind and body, then yes you were very very very wrong to punish your wife!
Please seek professional help before your punishments become more severe.
2006-10-31 08:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by anikkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a joke, I guess.
You have married an idiot. And she married a controlling jerk. Sounds like a match made in hell!
Your wife is supposed to be your partner. You are not her police, her daddy, or her boss. How would you feel if she told you YOU couldn't watch TV for 3 days because you might want to buy something? Ridiculous!
She is apparently not your partner, because she is throwing silly temper tantrums in a public place, to spite you. She doesn't sound very grown-up. You better be glad she is a child, or she would tell you to shove it.
She needs to tell you to get off her case and treat her like a respected adult or she is outa there.
If my husband had ever told me I couldn't watch TV, I'd have just laughed at him. Good luck telling me what to do. I don't mind worth a squat.
Of course, I don't have to be told about the effects of caffeine, but if I wanted a COKE, I'd get one. And if you banned me from a TV, I'd go get another one.
2006-10-31 08:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um I thought she was ur wife... U dont treat ur wife like u do a child. whats wrong with u? where did u learn that from?
It's soda and she's grown, i think she can handle the caffeine, hell it may make ur sex life a little more exciting.
But seriously , u really need to start treating her like a woman and a wife.. Control won't get u anywhere,, If u want to discipline someone have a baby and then u can talk like that to your son or daughter. but man not to ur wife. u have issues.
That is soooooooooo wrong.. .
2006-10-31 08:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sicilian Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u kidding me u told ur wife she could not have a soda, u are a tool. First ur wife should just leave u do not own her, 2 who cares if it keeps her up, get naked and enjoy the moonlight. I would wake up in the store aisle if i said that to my wife as she would knock me out, ohh and when i woke up she would be drinking a coke with a smile
2006-10-31 08:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by erker34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're just bored and you arent seriously like that. I'd never be with a man who I had to "borrow a dollar" from, or who chose when I was allowed to have a drink of coke. She sounds like she's your child and you're a sicko. You also do not punish your wife.
2006-10-31 09:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong???? In my opionion You are both wrong in so many ways. Is this your wife or your child? She needs to grow some. On the other hand if that's the type of relationship you have and she doesn't mind being treated like a child I guess you have nothing to feel bad about.
2006-10-31 08:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL This question is about your wife right, and not your daughter? I would hope that your wife is old enough to know what she can or can't handle before bed. Get some help seriously!
2006-10-31 09:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG OMG OMG! You are kidding right. Your punishment should be no more sex until you learn to appreciate and respect her for the aadult woman that she is. Punishment!!! Punishment is not the husband's job. I am speechless and can see that you will never understand what a real relationship is like.
2006-10-31 12:30:49 · answer #11 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋