To have another baby or to wait?
21, happily married (been together for 4 years) we have a 20 month old daughter that we ADORE. things could be better financially, but our hearts and minds are ready. we dont want our kids more than 3 years apart if we can help it. If this was you, what would you do? Start trying to conceive on faith that you will make it, or risk waiting until things are better, and it never happens?
2006-10-31 08:00:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
If you've already had a child you know that you and him are both capable. At 21 your internal clock is not even near the time where you need to be worried about your time left to concieve. You could definitely afford to wait a little while - if things are still the same in 6months to a year give it a go.
2006-10-31 08:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulation on baby and relationship as well as your honesty.
Why not try to better your situation financially? You guys are young but have alot going for you. Think about your options- do you have childcare, do both of you work, could you all get training, etc. You'd be surprised how much help you can get when you start asking. Then once you see you are heading in the right direction then start working on the next addition to your family. I have friends that had similar issues and it took less roughly a year to turn things around.
Wish you all the best!
2006-10-31 08:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by dazedreamr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision is up to the 2 of you!!! I would say follow your heart because it takes more than money to take care of a baby and you already know what to expect and do!! Like you said, if you wait, things may not get better, and then again they could, but how do you know that things won't be better by the time the baby gets here? Where there's a will, there's a way and I would actually say, go for it!! God will take care of you and everything will be fine!! Good Luck
2006-10-31 08:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by angellove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in this similiar situation but I'm 23 and he is 27. Our son is almost three. I think I would try to make my financial situation a little better. I would give it about a year and if things haven't changed then go ahead and start trying because by the time you have the baby you will have another 10 months to prepare. Only you can make this decision and only you know exactly how your financial situation is!
2006-10-31 08:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id try now because we have a 9 year old, a 3 year old, and a 8 month old and between the 9 and 3 year old I had 6 miscarriages and after the 3 year old I had 1 so you never know whats going to happen and you never know if things are going to get better so I would start now.
2006-10-31 08:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem kind of... But i am waiting because although your children won't be so close in age you won't have the stress of a toddler a new born and being broke. Being broke never makes for happiness and especially not with a new baby. and don't say it won't happen because if you really want for it it will work out and if it's not in your cards best not to force it.
2006-10-31 08:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Que 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says that if you wait until you can afford to have children you will never have children. Therefor I think as long as your not going to be living on the street, or not able to feed your kids, go for it, the rest will fall into place. Were your parents rich when they had you? Mine werent, but as I grew up they had more and more money, things started to get paid off, and they continued to do better. I think that if its what you want, then do it. good luck
2006-10-31 14:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by krickee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are ready, then go for it. No one can make this decision for you. You both need to discuss it and come to some conclusions. That includes being brutally honest about the good and bad of having a child now, or having a child later. If you both do that, the answer to your question will be clear to both of you.
2006-10-31 08:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same exact place with my first, well maybe not exact, I was younger, 19. I say go ahead. It's a good place to be. And things could always be better financially no matter who you are.
2006-10-31 08:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. I have three kids. 4 years between each one. It works perfect for me! My children also have great relationships because they are all in different stages. My sister and I were two years apart and in constant conflict when we were growing up.
2006-10-31 08:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋