I think that we are born either hetero or homosexual. I don't think it is a choice. I didn't choose to be hetero. My husband and I don't agree on this subject. But one of my gay friends says he was born gay. What's your opinion??
I would prefer that only gay people answer please!
THANK YOU AND HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!
2006-10-31 07:55:02 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Please don't refer to the Bible either. It was written be men and I don't think God cares about people being gay.
2006-10-31 08:03:11 · update #1
I was definitely born this way! I can remember as far back as NEVER having crushes on boys only girls (I'm a girl by the way) and I tried and tried to date guys but I only ever wanted to be with girls. No sense fighting nature!
Most gay people will tell you they were born this way. It is definitely not a choice! Why would gay people CHOOSE to lead a hard discriminated against life? It would be like having the option of being born a tiger or a toilet brush and choosing the toilet brush... it just doesn't make sense.
There are plenty of new studies coming out showing the linkages scientifically of brain pattern similarities between gay people which may give us more insight on this subject. For now though, most evidence and personal experience is that we were born this way.
2006-10-31 08:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Des Demona 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think we're all born asexual. Some people become heterosexual at adolescence through a contribution of biological, psychological, social, and perhaps even spiritual factors. And some become predominantly homosexual, and some bi / pansexual. Nothing in human behavior is so simple as to have a one to one cause-effect relationship. Whether or not you're "born" with it (which I'll chalk up to biological factors that emerge in adolescence or later), I think it's VERY rarely a "choice", with a possible exception of people who are bi /pansexual. This is a false dichotomy that the Right LOVES; if it's not biological (which we don't know to what extent it is or is not at this point; there are studies supporting biological FACTORS, but...see above), clearly that means it's a conscious choice. Which, frankly, is preposterous. Similarly, there's an assumption that anything that's been done can be undone, and I think that's not always the case either. I don't claim to know what's going on with the root of sexuality, but I will say there's a LOT more possibilities than the political Right wants you to think there are.
2006-10-31 19:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both, I think some are born that way just as heteros are born that way.But I also think some are thrust into the lifestyle by circumstances beyond their control. I think many people that were molested as children somehow confuse it with love and therefore it changes who they are and what they look for in a relationship. I am one of those people. I hate being attracted to members of the same sex. I have dated women and I've even been married, but it didn't feel natural.
2006-10-31 09:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Billy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Halloween to you too. I think people are born gay. I have gay friends though who earlier in their lives have had kids, as I have. I like to be selective and not jump on the first man I see. One of my gay friends then will say that I am not really gay. He is more into orgies and not selective. I think too that at first it became an experimental issue. As I think back I was under ten when I first had a same sex relationship. Of course we never advertised this. But my sister once told me that she experimented with the girls she had sleep over with her. I never asked her what she did, she just said that she experimented. She would be quite embarrassed if I even brought that up to her now.
2006-10-31 08:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Current psychological evidence shows that both are true. People are born with one sexual orientation or another. However sometimes it can change, typically with sexual abuse. This can cause a person born straight to become gay or vice versa.
Current biological evidence shows that one of the significant factors in determining wheter or not a boy is gay is how many older brothers he has. The theory is that after multiple pregnancies carrying a male child the mothers womb reacts differently to the Y chromosome over time, making it more likely they are born homosexual.
Its really quite interesting science.
2006-10-31 07:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you can be born gay. My mo told me that she always knew i was lesbian or bi cause i always did guy things. I wasn't very feminine ever growing up and even started young i had a thing for girls. I never knew what it was until a few years ago. Then my best friend showed me that it was ok to be bi or lesbian so i came out. But my mom knew it even when i didn't cause i was just born that way. No matter what she did to try to get me to be faminine i wouldn't do it.
So my answer is yes, i do believe people can be born gay. But i also believe you can be straight and find that being gay is better so you can change.
2006-10-31 09:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm bisexual- hope I still qualify.
I actually don't believe that we are born with a predetermined sexual orientation. There are too many people who find their sexual preferences changing over time for this to be true, in my opinion.
I do believe, however, that you don't per se CHOOSE to be gay. You don't wake up one day and say "Geez, I think I'll eschew women and go for men instead." But just because you didn't choose it doesn't mean it's biologically a part of you, you know? It's not something you can change, I feel. Take this example, for instance- you are a cat lover. You just love your pet kitties. Never been a dog person, thanks. You just know for sure that you wouldn't ever want to own a dog. So, someone says- you choose to love cats. Well, no, you reply, not really. I mean, I just like cats. I've always been that way. Does that mean, then, that there is a cat-loving gene in your body? Of course not. It means that this is a preference in your mind, one that you cannot consciously change, but is not innate, either.
I think that human sexuality is immensely more complex than the labels we have today like gay and straight. I also believe that love is gender blind and a straight man can find himself falling in love with another man, still completely attracted to women and utterly not attracted to men, but emotionally and sexually satisfied with that one man he loves. Our sexual desires come from our personalities, our past experiences, our childhoods, socialization, and more. It's a heady, deliciously messy mix of everything, and it gives us all that's wonderful about our sexuality today, so diverse.
That's my stance on things. I know that a lot of gay/bisexual people claim they are born that way, and I understand why they feel that way. For them, the claim feels true. In my opinion, a lot of straight people call it a choice so they don't have to ask hard questions about God (creating that which He supposedly hates?) and their source of intolerance (how can you hate something that someone never chose to be, like skin color, or, in this case, sexual orientation?). Like I said, I think it's neither, but I don't mind people claiming they were born gay. Just as long as they don't say that all gay people were born gay, or all straight people were born straight, etc., etc.- until they have scientific proof to back that up.
Cheers!
2006-10-31 09:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, for the LAST TIME!
WE ARE BORN THIS WAY. Not Nurtured, not converted, not made, not coerced, not created, BORN!
Why do people not get this? How can a straight person even know what they are talking about in regards to this subject, and how can some gay people fall for this claptrap?
BTW, I am not directing this at the questioner, but at some the respondents who continue to say "oh it's partly this and partly that", no it's not morons, we are born this way. Next question please.
2006-10-31 08:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it usually depends on the person some feel they are born this way and in some cases you can tell a person is going to be gay by the way they act as a child. But others have been turned by someone else that is gay. They experiment and l;ike it so thats how it usually works but if your friend says they were born gay they should know so I would believe them.
2006-10-31 08:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think we are born gay. Going through something really difficult could make you be turned off by a gender (such as rape or molestation) but it can not make you get all breathless and excited to be involved with the other gender.
I tried so hard to be straight, marriage, kids, the whole deal... then I had to face facts. I was born gay and nothing else worked for me.
2006-10-31 08:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by pammy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋