To keep this sweet and simple, there was a girl that I was crushing on last year. She was really obvious, staring at me, etc., so I really thought she was gay. So I told her I liked her and she rejected me. But now, some days she'll look at me, and others she won't look me in the eye. I also feel like she was trying to make me jealous. What's going on?
2006-10-31 07:53:58 · 15 answers · asked by boobooshurt 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are correct. Let her now make the move on you. Other than that - life is too short. Find someone who will care about you and don't wait around for her to make up her mind.
2006-10-31 08:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably does like you & is just scared to take the step. At least that's what i'd think!
She could also be embaressed about putting herself out there like that to you, and that's why she changed her mind & why she won't always look you in the eye.
How is she trying to make you jealous? Is she doing this to other girls, too? If she is, stay away!! You don't want a player!
Or maybe she's just crushing on you and isn't gay, she could be immature and be reactting from that place.
But I'd bet money on the fact that she's very curious about you!
2006-10-31 15:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sally C,
She's conflicted. Perhaps a fantasy, or on the other end of the spectrum, she might be seeing a Lesbian, those that she was told to hate.
I find that people like that are looking for their chance to approach. If you want her to, keep your body language open, approachable.
Also there is this; after having been completely infatuated with a girl at work. Every day is torture (if she is lusting after you). You are going to get differing moods from her daly, maybe hourly. You might want to talk to her daily, pleasantly. One of those days she's going to agree to something, perhaps a meeting at a coffee shop after work. When she feels like she is a part of things, she will open up.
2006-10-31 16:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be scared to tell u how she feels...if she is in denial or doesn't want to accept the fact that she is having feelings for you than she might just reject u because of her own insecurities and not because she doesn't like u. You have to just let time tell but I wouldn't obsess over it, in time if something happens and you both are in a place to explore it further then so be it but if not then she missed the opportunity!
2006-10-31 16:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by jobseeker_3212005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stare at people all the time without even realising I'm doing it. I'd hate to think what they think I'm thinking when I look at them, but honestly, it means nothing. All I'm doing is staring at a point and if the point happens to be their face, well so be it.
Don't get confused or hopeful by things that may not mean anything. She rejected you - enough said.
(sorry she rejected you though)
2006-10-31 16:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-31 16:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is curious..I am not bi or anything but when I was younger my best friend was a lesbian and I was curious so I flirted w/ her alot. It was selfish on my part I know now but at the time I was just curious..but would never let anything happen cuz I was scared I guess.
sorry to say we arent friends anymore...not cuz of this though we just lost touch w/ each other. GOOD LUCK though.
2006-10-31 15:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jewelz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. Even if she is gay she's clearly not ready to be herself yet, and has not gotten to the point in her life where she is comfortable with herself. Stop spending your energy and time on her and focus on someone else. Having feelings for someone who does not have feelings for you back can hurt.
2006-10-31 15:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes probably just nervous about how everyone will treat her if they find out she likes a girl. some people dont care what others think, some people only pretend not to care.
2006-10-31 15:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by sTaRgAzEr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is curious or really does like you but is afraid to come out and explore that side of her...?
2006-10-31 15:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by MAC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋