i love him soo much...the problem is he is not from my country...and he said that he is a muslim..but iam not sure..how can i trust him ?and how do i know that he is a muslim without asking him directly?plz any muslims help me..
2006-10-31 07:43:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as a Muslim girl you should know the correct way to have this marriage, his family should be in contact with you and your family, you have the best way in marring don't make a mistake always read and pray as you should know before making any decision , and you family should help and if it is wright inshalla all will be well for you , Salam alicom
2006-10-31 12:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by va_d2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a muslim, but you still need to hear this.
Don't marry anyone you met a month ago. He could be a murderer, a child molester, a drug addict, a hired killer.
How can you love someone sooo much in a month? Love starts out little and grows. It takes more than a month for real love, respect, devotion, trust to grow. More than 2 months. Try a year, and then you might have something.
Why can't you ask him what his favorite passage in the holy book is? Or what he thinks of Iraqi freedom fighters? Or whether he wants to raise your children to be suicide bombers? Where does he attend ? Has he made his pilgrimage yet?
Have you MET this guy? Maybe it is cusomary in your country to marry people you don't know, but your life is still worth something. Don't throw your life away on some guy you haven't met or can't ask important questions. Why can't you ask him direct questions?
Does he expect you to move to his country? Is it safe? What does he do? Will he support what YOU want to do? What freedoms will you be giving up? What will you be getting? Will you be living in a tent? A palace ? An apartment? School? Future?
No matter your religion, you deserve the best life you can have for yourself and your children. Be safe, and good luck.
2006-10-31 08:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot love him, if you have never seen him and no one of your family or friends has had a chance to know who he is.
You must be very careful, very patient. Keep writing to him, ask him questions about his beliefs, about how he thinks women can live, be, how he would act in certain instances.
Try to get facts which will verify from where he comes, who is his family, does he have a record with the police, etc. He is the man, and he wants you, so he should comply with any questions your father, mother, and family have for him.
Consult with your mullah and the local police to see if they can assist you tracing his real identity, if necessary. He could say he is anything. How are you to know it is true? At some point, you may decide to gamble, and trust your heart. I think you should consult first with your family.
Fe man Allah.
2006-10-31 07:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being gullible ; you can NOT love someone according to your faith in that short a time. He hasn't met your family or anything. If he is true then have him visit you and your family in your country. Have your church leaders contact his to find out how active he is within his congregation. Speak with your parents. If you don't then it is because you know in your heart that this is too good to be real. Your family loves you for a certainty. They will look out for your best interests. Don't take the word of a stranger over the words of the people whom you have known your entire life. BE CAREFUL! Girls disappear after meeting someone on the internet all the time!
2006-10-31 07:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u seen him on the web-cam? if not then tell him to send his picture.. by looking at his photo u might find out if he is or not.. if u feel u cant do this ask him directly as tomorrow u cant repent that u have met the wrong guy or u hung up a totally wrong individual.. love should be such that it should be clear without anything in ur heart or mind or soul.. So just ask him..
(i personally feel check out if he is for real a person who loves u too & he has said truth to u about him)
2006-10-31 07:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, slow down and just date him. If you marry him right away then I guess you want to suffer. Open your eyes: he could just be charming you with words. FYI: Long distance relationships usually work because the other person isnt there to get on your nerves.
All you guys have are words but what about the other things? Can he provide for you? Can he love you through thick/thin? Can he be loyal? Can he protect/stand up for you? Most of all can he give you the respect you deserve? Think about it..
2006-10-31 07:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sonyja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be a fool.Ask him anyhting about ismam and if u answers u right away then he miight be.But u shouldnt marry someone u just met online and havent seen him in real life.I'm 16 and im muslim too but i if i was u i wouldnt trust soemone i havent seen in real life.How is he gonna ask u to marry him if u havent even met. i aint tryna be harsh but be real girl.make a wise desicion
oh and zack,whereever u is from, u need to get a life and grow up.theres muslims everywhere.u cant handle that then thats just too bad.u dont have to be there.got sutin to say bout that,email u u racist a**
2006-10-31 07:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by *~Love?~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you ask this guy directly? What's wrong with asking? If you say you love him soooo much, why is it that you can't ask him a pretty simple question?
HOW can you love someone that you've only spoken to for the last 4 weeks?? People on the internet can tell you whatever they want to... People like you believe them.
Honestly, being from your country is the last thing you need to concern yourself with...
2006-10-31 07:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all one month is not enough time to really get to know someone, especially online. Is converting to the Muslim faith something that you are willing to do, because he will undoubtedly want you to do that. I would do some research on his faith and talk to him about an issue that you have a question on, even if it is just to test his knowledge.
2006-10-31 07:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not mumlism but why are u seeing a guy off of the internet go and meet him if ur that intersted and dont go somewhere that u and him r alone u cant trust everyone u meet if could be a 70 year old pretending to be 21
2006-10-31 07:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋