I and my husband have been married over a year now, I am bulimic, I have been ever scince we have been together. He resently told me that he don't want to be with a person like that. It hurt my heart so bad, the only reason I ever started was because he always watches porn. It makes me feel bad like I am not as good looking as those girls. He doesn't seem to understand that. I know I need help. But what should I do about him?
2006-10-31 07:42:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First and foremost, don't ever do something to yourself that is harmful to your mind or your body. And don't compare yourself to the girls in the movies that he is watching. You are being too hard on yourself. You have to seriously decide whethere he is telling you that he cannot be with someone who is bullimic because he is using it as an excuse to get out of the marriage or if that is his way of pushing you to get help. Whatever you find out please stop hurting yourself.
2006-10-31 07:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me you 2 need to sit down & talk this whole thing out. You seem to have self esteem issues that you need to deal with. My significant other said to me one time, " your taken but you're not dead". Meaning look but don't touch. You need to get your bulimia under control before it takes over your life. Bulimia does very harmful things to the inside of your body, as well as the outside. It's common for Bulimics to end up having an autoimmune disease which causes the skin to become discolored. So, think about the consequences of your actions in regards to your Bulimia. If you can't stop it yourself then get help immediately!
As for your relationship, you really need to communicate with eachother & try to understand eachother's point of view. You might not like the fact that he looks at porn, yet he doesn't like the fact that you have Bulimia. I'm not saying turn about is fair play, but what I am saying is that in every relationship there has to be some give & take. Perhaps if you wanted him to become arroused by you more often instead of porn pics, then put on something sexy & show it off to him. If you can't fix the problem yourselves, seek counseling before it gets out of control.
2006-10-31 07:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two separate issues. First, take care of yourself with the bulimia. It is nothing to mess around with. You have low self-esteem. You are wonderful the way you are naturally and anyone who doesn't accept you the way you are is not really in love with you. Find someone who is. I sure hope you don't have children.
Second, his porno. He has a problem if he uses porno as a stimulant instead of having a healthy sex life with you. If that is what he is doing...sounds like it if he always watches it...a big problem if you ask me.
Maybe both of you should consider counseling for each issue and find a way to work together on both issues.
2006-10-31 07:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-01 02:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that but your husband is jerk for not understanding the situation.You need help and he instead of suporting you he tells you he doesnt want to be with the person like that???You need to go to the doctor before is too late.
They all watch porns so dont think bad about yourself.
2006-10-31 17:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that is the reason you started doing that. If he made you like that than he should want to help you not just leave you in the dust. When people get married they marry for health and in sickness.
2006-10-31 07:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not very sympathetic, but that could be his character.
You being bulimic because of your views is more of an issue.
Get help and if he is stopping your healing then get rid of him. One's health is a very selfish thing that not enough people take seriously.
2006-10-31 08:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk, he should tell you that he wants to help you get rid of this problem you have, instead of trying to walk out on you. Though you should've went at it a different way from the beginning, some kind of healthy diet and exercise. Seek out help for yourself, not for his sake, but for yours, with him, if he's that shallow, tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out
2006-10-31 07:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help for you. Forget about him. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else. What good will it do you if your laid up in a hospital bed sick, if he doesn't care enough about you to help you get better.
2006-10-31 08:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by mama10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has no more feelings for yoiu than that I would say to leave him for someone who understands you and would love you like you are.
2006-10-31 07:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋