i don't really like my new bestfriends' boyfriend i do i tell her. i don't to destroy our friendship over this but i can't take it any more. he calls me names and harasses me when she's not around then lies about it. he just won't stop unless i stop hangin around them, but thats not fair. i need some advice yall!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-31 07:36:26 · 5 answers · asked by Lavender da Great!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In my opinion, your bestfriend might be blinded by love right now so telling her may not be the right thing to do. Like you said it will just make here turn into an enemy. My recommendation is to back off from going out with them and let them do their own thing. However, this does not mean you can not ask her to go out with you ONLY every now and then. Spin this to her as "girls" night out or girls day out "special" thing. If she ask why, just say "some times it would be nice just to have girl time so maybe you can share with her some of your personal boy experiences" or something like that. Unfortunately, when couples do "get together", they end up spending more time with each other and the friends are put to the side. This is just how it works sometimes. The key for you is to not take offensive, but to step slightly to the side. This doesn't mean you are giving up on the bestfriendship, just giving it some space for now. However, remember to always be there because sooner or later, your friend will realize who this guy really is and that is when she will need you to be there for her. Just my two cents.
2006-10-31 07:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by sunflwr528ia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad. Friendships are hard to come by. But I would simply tell your friend that you are having a problem with her bf and would prefer he not be around when you hang out. If she doesn't like that, then she isn't a very good friend.
2006-10-31 07:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would tell her. if she is blinded by him, then tell her you will only go out with her or hang out with her when she is alone. that you dont feel comfortable around her bf and for the sake of the friendship you rather backup and give her space.
then try to either call her once or twice a week and try to see her at least once a week.
2006-10-31 07:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't be around her when she's with him. He's the one that is jealous of your friendship, but if you go and say something to her, it will look like you are jealous of their relationship.
2006-10-31 07:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend knows that i'm sometimes not too fond of the guy that she is dating but, i don't have her take care of the issues that i have with him. I just go to him myself and he knows how i feel. We are cool just as long as he doesn't do anything to piss me off.
2006-10-31 08:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋