I have a friend who has been pretty depressed lately. He lost his mom from cancer when he was in fifth grade (We are both 14 now) and his father has been in jail since he was four. He's been thinking about it a lot lately but yesterday he told me that he was mad at god and that he sometimes thought about giving up and killing himself. How do I explain to him that he can't? He's fine now but if it comes up again I need to tell him something more. I told him that his grandparents and tons of people care about him and would be extremely sad if he did that, especially his dad and he told me that he'd think his dad would kill himself he did commit suicide so I said exactly, you can't do it and he said at least we'd be together! It scared me to death. He promised he wouldn't do anything, but thats because I bursted into tears and I know this conversation is going to come up again tonight and I need help on what to say to him to prove to him that woudl be the stupidest thing he could do.
2006-10-31 07:14:47 · 8 answers · asked by Erin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All right, he just told me he was considering and I don't think he'd ever really do and I promised I wouldn't tell anyone about our conversation so although it may be good advice I can't tell any adult or anyone.
2006-10-31 07:26:34 · update #1
Tell him that his mom didn't raise him to end his life. If she had the choice, I'm sure she would be alive today. He MUST live for his mom's memory to continue. She, after all, is the reason he exists. If he takes his life, it would be as though his mom went through everything for nothing at all. He must live as his mom would've wanted him to. Grow to be a great man, set examples for others, fight for a cancer cure (no matter how little or much he contributes to the cure). Drink in all of lifes beauty, his mom is a part of that beauty. Never think negatively.
2006-10-31 07:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by ratdog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that thats not the way to solve your problems, by killing yourself. All it's going to do is make everyone around him sad. If he kills himself he's being selfish and not giving his life a chance. He has a reason to be mad at his life because of everything that has gone on but he can't turn to death. Tell him that through all these tribulations that he's going through, God has something for him in the future. He has the chance to get married, have kids, and have a good life if he just cares about himself and works at it. If he kills himself then he kills his future kids and grandkids. He doesn't want to do that does he. Keep encouraging him that he can make his life better by just trying and being a good person. Good things will eventually come his way. Good Luck and its very nice of you to care and try and save his life!! :)
P.S. Eventhough you don't want to tell an adult, telling one may save his life so I would sugesst doing so. You may not want to now, but later you'll be happy you did.
2006-10-31 07:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tennis2127 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone. Although he promised he wouldn't do anything he might just be saying that. People who are thinking of suicide usually give a sign that they are going to do it. He has given you a sign. You may not want to tell someone but for your friends sake you need to. When you think of suicide you are not thinking in your right mind. You might think you can lose a friend by telling but would you rather have a person you care about alive and healthy or a dead friend. He need professional help that you can't give him. It sounds like you really care about him. Talk to his grandmother and tell her your concerns. He has alot of reasons to be sad but with help he can be helped through these hard times. Tell someone now before its to late. Good Luck
2006-10-31 07:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend going through the same thing right now except her mom and dad pretty much disowned her and tell her how ugly and helpless she is. first off u need to comfort him, hes in a tough period of his life and all he needs is love and friends that he nos will always be there for him. if that does not work then u need to tell someone fast. he will do it if he has enough courage and gets mad enough.
get help fast before its to late.
2006-10-31 07:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hootie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him to find the things he likes and to look forward to them. Tell him to live the moment and not to try to play into some big scene that may not come to be. No one can predict the future.
2006-10-31 07:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erin you sound like good people and it certainly shows that you care deeply about your friend. I take it that this friend might be uncomfortable with talking about this with adults. I bet you have great parents. Do you think that they can help?
2006-10-31 07:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by David D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to someone at school like a giudence counselor
2006-10-31 07:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by missy1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TELL A RESPONSIBLE ADULT NOW
2006-10-31 07:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋