We have been completely separated since August, and he won't reconcile, or attend to a counselor. His intention to divorce is final. Obviously, I doesn't care for our marriage anymore. I will like to know if is OK for me to began dating again and how soon? I am lonely and bored sick to be at home alone.
2006-10-31 06:57:22 · 27 answers · asked by Woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If there is no chance of reconciling then go for it! Speaking from experience me and my husband split up and we didn't divorce until a year later. He started dating right away but was also telling me that he wanted to work things out with me. I finally started dating and enjoyed myself... and made him jealous too which was great...lol... I'm now engaged to the most loving and caring man I have ever met! Believe me... there is someone else out there for you! You just have to start out in the dating field and get back on with your life! If a man wants you nothing will take him away, if a man dosen't want you nothing can make him stay! But remember this.....You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Hope some of this helped!
Tee
2006-10-31 07:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say go ahead and date but don't take any relationship to a sexual level. You NEVER know what might happen and you don't want that hanging over your head if you guys do get back together. It is safer to wait until the divorce is final to have an intimate relationship with someone else, but until then you can totally let some guy buy you dinner :)
2006-10-31 07:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do whatever you want but it's not healthy to jump into the dating and you are not divorced yet. Not healthy for you being that this is all still fresh because it is not actually over and not healthy for anyone that may become involved with you and you are married. Find a hobby. Spend some quality time reflecting and perfecting yourself that when you start dating you will be whole and not wounded.
2006-10-31 07:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by kyle g 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not give yourself some time alone to process and reflect on your feelings about your husband and your marriage. Getting involved with other people when you have recently separated is a slippery slope. Why jump from the frying pan into the fire? Take the time to get to know yourself on your own, without your husband
2006-10-31 07:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no. Not unless you both agree to it as terms of your separation. Why not just divorce? Separation means you are still working on the relationship you have now, with distance. You have to decide with the one you are separated from....it may ruin any chance you two have of getting things back on track and isnt that what you really want?
2006-10-31 07:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been separated for almost 3 years now, but i started dating a guy 3 weeks after my ex husband i separated. i was married for 10 yrs. we are still only separated, but i have been living with my boyfriend for as long as the ex and i have been separated and my daughter loves him and the ex and my boyfriend get along very well. but i guess it depends on your situation. but i can guarentee you your ex is getting some so why not you. what is good for the gander is good for the goose!
2006-10-31 07:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by dennyfredeliza 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on go on a few dates. It will not matter in a court of law because you have been separated for so long.
2006-10-31 07:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing. she says she does not love me anymore that she only sees me as a friend. we still live together which makes it even harder to try and date anyone. i know the first time i was even flirting with someone else i felt extremely guilty. you deserve to be happy i say go for it if you can.
2006-10-31 07:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by lost 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember: anything you do or say before a divorce hearing will be used against you by your husband’s attorney.
I especially wouldn’t date if there is going to be a child custody hearing.
2006-10-31 07:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by karriepoo1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's over except for signing the papers, then why not date? If he's not interested in keeping your marriage together, you can't keep it together on your own if he's not interested, so what's the harm in going out? Do you think he's not doing it?
2006-10-31 07:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by BVC_asst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋