I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND FOR OVER A YEAR AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5 YEARS. I HAVE A VERY HIGH SEX DRIVE AND NORMALLY AS HE SAYS IT "BUSTS A MOVE ON HIM" EVERYDAY. I LOVE HIM AND HE IS THE ONLY MAN I AM WITH AND WANT TO BE WITH BUT HE HAS SAID THAT HE LOVES HOW HE CAN HAVE SEX ANYTIME MOST MEN WOULD DIE TO HAVE IT BUT HE DOENS'T WANT TO HAVE SEX EVERYDAY HE WANTS TO JUST CUDDLE SOMETIMES. I WONDER IF I HAVE BEEN IN CONTROL TOO LONG AND HE WANTS TO BE THE ONE TO BUST A MOVE ON ME. I DON'T KNOW
2006-10-31 06:54:03 · 27 answers · asked by MommaG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Women have waves, men have caves. Have you ever heard this? Women have waves because when they feel something they die to show it and in your case you need to love your husband in the way you do. There is nothing wrong with it absolutely.
Men have caves because they prefer to hide some of their feelings and decide on them within themselves. This is the reason he sometimes wants to cuddle instead of moving on.
ABSOLUTELY I do not see him as wanting to change anything in you, only sometimes he feels he needs your company, your warmth, your presence to help him and support him. Try and move within his paths and give him some space so that he may comminicate with you in all his ways and means.
2006-10-31 06:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to just cuddle sometimes. You don't want to fire to be put out. I mean you guys are only a year into it. You don't want it to get boring. If you guys do it everday now, what is there to look forward to later? All the excitement is going to be gone. Save some for later!
2006-10-31 14:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be the worst of your problems you ever face. Understand that his sex drive is different from yours and will likely diminish as he gets older or his stress levels get higher. If you initiate sex and he isn't interested or is too tired, don't take it personally and don't take it as a rejection or a personal insult. Instead, either wait until some other time when he is interested or go take care of your own needs.
2006-10-31 15:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief relax! Take a breath and let the man have his space. I like a good cuddle every now and then. Let the man have his space and curl up with him! Let him make the first move for a change
2006-10-31 15:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by gem753 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cuddle, sometimes cuddling can lead to more. Try letting him decide when, where, and how. You might like letting him being in control.
If you are still "needing" sex, try some toys. They make plenty to satisfy us ladies :)
2006-10-31 15:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as in too much sex. It is clear that you are more into it than he is. But u need to just give him time and he should come around.
2006-10-31 15:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by karla16jc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex everyday, it doesnt feel as good for the men because your vagina doesnt have time to heal and return to natural size. Intimacy is very draining and since you have been focused on your sex drive maybe you should focus on his, could there be a problem your not seeing? Impetiance?
2006-10-31 14:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by raelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very normal for a couple to "slow things down" a little bit. No need to freak out. Just let him drive sometimes. Good luck! :)
2006-10-31 14:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kisawanta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants some of that control. But I don't think you can ever have too much sex with your spouse.
2006-10-31 14:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think he minds i know my husband likes when i am the one to initiate sex. i'm the one that sometimes just wants to cuddle but i always try to make him happy and satisfied cuz i don't want him wondering you know what i mean.
2006-10-31 14:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋