I have been married for nine years and love my husband very much, but I have been having a secret on line romance with another man. It is something that started in an inocent way, but has now gone onto a lot of sex talk and exchanging of some pictures. I want to stop but haven't. I'm not sure what to do? I love the fun of the secret romance but yet I think I have gone to far to tell my husband.
2006-10-31 06:52:54 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your avatar name says it all. Don't tell your husband, it would only hurt him. Stop the "romance" before it's too late.
2006-10-31 06:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by eddysmomma 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Understand that what you are doing is cheating, first of all. Even though it started out as innocence, it has become more than that now. You need to completely stop the online romance and talk to your husband about it openly. Explain to him that this is something that just happened and you would rather it be him that you are sharing these feelings with. Be honest with him and talk to him about what was going through your mind while chatting with someone else. Stop before you get caught. What would you do if it was your husband doing this instead of you? Think about that, then confront your husband and let him know that you want his help in putting a stop to the online romance. Let him be a part of the solution. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 06:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by curious mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a sure thing with your husband. This guy may be wonderful on line but do you really know him? He can tell you anything he thinks you want to hear. The grass is always greener on the other side until you get there. Just remember one woman's trash is an-others treasure and if you lose your husband for some sex talk someone will come along and take him away. Something for you to think about. Put yourself in his shoes.
2006-10-31 07:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by rose v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have gone too far! And if you loved your husband as much as you said you do... then this romance would have never started! Tell your husband... if he leaves you over it then realize its your fault... if he don't then you have a good man.. learn from your mistakes and never do it again! First and for most you need to get rid of this other guy! Sorry if this seemed rude... It wasn't intended to be.... But you asked so you should expect an answer! Take your marriage vows more seriously! They aren't something you say and then throw away when its convenient for you! Geesh
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2006-10-31 06:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by sexymama2420052000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little fantasy is ok; but....I think you have gone too far. Does the other man know that you are married?
It sounds like you need to spice things up at home...how would your husband about chatting w/the other man with you? It could be kind of like a cybersex threesome. If your man at home is not into this, try something else(new & exciting) w/him.
However, if you really do love your hubby & you don't want to lose him, then get off of the dating sites.
Watch some porn w/your husband..you might get some fresh ideas!!!!!
2006-10-31 07:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your exciting new hobby is called Adultery. How charming. You must be proud to know that this is how you show you love your husband very much.
Too bad you didn't try skiing or sky diving if you wanted some thrills. When you look in the mirror, say "I'm a lying cheating tramp who loves the fun of the secret romance."
2006-10-31 06:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is will it go any farther? If so you might wanna ask your husband how he feels about it. Tell him it is just an innocent online friend as a form of entertainment and nothing more....if thats the case. Otherwise, you may want to decide if what you and your husband have together is worth throwing away over some text and pictures.
2006-10-31 06:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by Donnie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex talk on-line is one thing. Exchanging photos is something entirely different. The photos removes anonymity and by default the relationship leaps from idle curiosity to the "check me out and tell me if you like what you see". The twisted part is the guy you are messing with on-line is probably married himself and playing games also.
How I long for the days when humanity would be happy with what they got rather than searching for something they will never find.
2006-10-31 07:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Harley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think of ways to put that spice into your own marriage! Put those dirty lil pictures of yourself in his pockets or make his lunch n stick it in there. If you put all that effort into your marriage where it belongs, think of the fun you can have with the man that loves you!!
I do think what your doing is wrong on so many levels. Stop the online romance and start romancing your husband.
2006-10-31 07:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband you need to stop the online romance. Its not worth losing your husband over. Put the shoe on the other foot. If your husband was doing this you'd be very hurt and upset.
Maybe you can start that with your husband. Add excitement into the relationship
2006-10-31 06:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying. Never tell your husband, Never ever. You can stop when you want. Don't give out any more personal information to the guy. You ca have fun, but remember it is a game. Don't send him picture that show your face or tell him your real name or where you live. if you already did those things, cut him off now and never e-mail him again. you can find a new playmate and be smarter this time. Good Luck, you and e-mail me if you have more questions.
2006-10-31 06:57:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋