what are your views on cheating?

Question

do you think its wrong to cheat ?
i am going through a divorce and we still live together and i sleep with someone else and my husband hasnt that i know of, but anyways is it wrong to chea ton him? i mean he doesnt know i sleep with someone else and doesnt ask, but we are still married

is this wrong? me and my husband dont love each other anymore

Answer 1

It's wrong for you and your husband to be living together while going through a divorce.

If you're getting divorced, you should be free to date whoever you choose.

Answer 2

What kind of person would think cheating was okay? I wouldn't want to know them...

Cheat is a crummy thing to do to anyone...it's disrespectful, dishonest, disloyal, rude, hateful, and the list could go on...but it always comes back around and bites the cheater(s)...

Treat people as you would want to be treated...you pretty much can't go wrong if you walk that path...

You are going through a divorce, so I wouldn't classify what you are doing as cheating, but it is unkewl because you are keeping it secret. If you are divorcing, why can't you keep your panties on until it is over? In some states, adultry is a criminal offense...what if your husband were to find out and use it against you? I would, if I were he...

Why not tell your soon-to-be ex that you are seeing someone? By your own admission, there's no love between you, and if a divorce is in the works, then no reason for him to have a problem with it, and you'd have a more clear conscience than you presently do...

Answer 3

Jesus said that having sex with someone who is not your legally married spouse is adultery. If you were single and having sex outside of being married to the person, He would call it fornication. Both are sins and could cause you to wind up in in Hell (A real place.).

He also would be against getting a divorce except for the causes of one of you committing adultery and the other wants out of the marriage, or there is a believer married to a non-believer and the non-believer wants it to end. There is a saying that goes, "If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place." I suggest that both you and your husband read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" to find out what love really is and isn't. Love is patient and kind and doesn't seek its own way at the expense of others. Real love is the type of which a person will die in order to save another's life. Love lasts forever.

You are in a serious situation spiritually and you might want to be careful lest you wind up a lot worse off than you are now. I would suggest that you and your husband find a Bible believing pastor or counselor and try to find out where the love that you had which made you get married went and try to get it back.

Answer 4

Yes, no matter what the circumstances are, cheating is cheating. Think about it, if you sat down and asked total strangers this question, then you must be feeling a sense of guilt. Stay with your sense that you are cheating, whether your husband knows of your extra acitivites or not. What would happen if you turned the picture around and found out that it is your husband cheating on you, sleeping with someone else. What would you do? Think about it! Cheating is cheating.

Answer 5

I wouldn't want to be in your shoes with the living together thing and going through a divorce, but I'm sure you have your resons for it. If the marriage is truly over and their is no love, and you have actually filed for divorce, and only under ALL three circumstances would I say this is not even cheating. I know by law you are supposed to wait until the divorce is final, but most don't even wait until they split up. I think you may be moving on to another man to fast and not giving yourself time to find yourself and start your own life new, but I don't feel this is cheating.

Answer 6

It sounds like your on your way to being divorced. In your situation, I'm not sure I would consider it cheating. You say you don't love each other, so I would think you should be moving on with your life. I think it is strange that you still live together. I always think that if you love someone still and are with someone else, that would be cheating.

Answer 7

every individual idea and way of seeing cheating is different. The fact that you say you have other partners but still live with your husband shows that you are still indecisive on which pathway you ought to choose. I would suggest that you reflect a little bit on your relationships and make out which is the best for your life style. Be careful, though, move slowly and carefully. Rushing things would inflict a lot of pain and anger which will effect the rest of your life.

Good Luck

Answer 8

In this case, I might suggest that it's understandable, provided you still aren't sleeping with your soon to be x-husband. Nothing good can come from sleeping with both at the same time. If you're really getting a divorce, yet still living under the same roof, I'd be sleeping in separate beds. If that's not happening, then are you really committed to separating?

Answer 9

IF you and your husband are already "broken up" but not completely divorced, I don't think it is necessarily cheating- I mean, I have been separated for over 10 months now but I am still legally married (and not even legally separated) and have had a relationship with another man, and I do not believe that is cheating. When you are both aware that the relationship is over, and there is no physical closeness between you and your soon to be ex, then, I do not think you are cheating.

Answer 10

Yes it's wrong! I believe people that cheat have poor self esteem, they have to continuously go out and seek approval and confirmation. But if only they took the time to appreciate what they already had, they would indeed see how wonderful they were. They are so self involved however that they seem to fail to be able to have a good relationship with another person because their needs come first.