My sisters best friend works as a adoption counselor. B/c she didn't approve an adoption to a family the agency was taken to court by the family trying to adopt & brought up character flaws on the part of (our friend).Our friend was then told by her supervisor that she had smelled marijuana on her a couple times and suggested she take a drug test, our friend then resigned giving a 2 week notice knowing they will not only will they find weed, excasty (for her sexcapdes lifestyle) and non-RX percocet will be discovered. This friend of ours will be obtaining her masters in social work and education in two semesters and has plans to work w/ children, again. My sister says oh well she can move on to the next job, that I am overreacting about the friends drug problem. I say our friend has a duty to stop, that employers can find out why she was fired (this is the 2nd firing) she will ruin her chances if she dosen't get help w/ her drug problem. I will rat her out if she works again!
2006-10-31 06:31:04 · 6 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree she has a big problem. However, it's not YOUR problem. Your friend will eventually hit bottom and figure out for herself what help she needs. Until that time, you can tell her how you feel and then back away until she is straight. You can't run her life as much as you'd like to help her. So, rat her out...do you really think she cares??? NO !!! She doesn't. You won't get a single bit of satisfaction from doing that. Suggest she get help and back away from the friendship because when she really gets down, she will be stealing and "borrowing" from everyone to support her habits. Godloveya all.
2006-10-31 06:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this also a good friend of yours? Talk to her and tell her that you are worried about her drug use, really worried. I agree with you that she should not be working with children if she is under the influence of drugs. But, I would work the source first. She is obviously a smart women with compassion for people or she would not be working on a PHD in social work. She knows that this is a no no. She needs a counselor herself. Tell that she needs to be in counseling. Tell her you will go with her but that she is setting herself up for failure if she continues with the drugs. She needs to find better coping skills for the stresses of her life. If she doesn't do this, go for it. But, do know that your friendship will be over.
Good Luck.
2006-10-31 14:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by BParker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in that she is ruining her life and future chances for employment. Rat her out? I don't think I'd go that far...try talking to her or suggest she gets some counselling regarding employment and/or drugs. Remember what goes around comes around! If she's not interested in listening to you, she will learn the hard way.
2006-10-31 14:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Liora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friend seems like a big hypocrite to become a social worker when she clearly needs therapy herself. Maybe she smokes and takes other drugs to help her cope with such an emotionally charged job. The friend should consider another profession, IMHO.
2006-10-31 14:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by hollyberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your friend about this. She will have to drug test for each job she applies for after and if she tests positive, they won't hire her. You are correct, she should stop if she is going to work with children.
2006-10-31 14:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. The friend needs to handle her drug problem before interacting with children that she is supposed to be protecting.
2006-10-31 14:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋