I became very close friends with a girl I met at work the other year. It has been 2 years since we met and we both consider each other to be our respective best friend. About a year ago, I asked her out. I was rejected. We somehow continued to be best friends, despite the awkwardness at the beginning. We have really grown since then and talk everyday. However, whenever she starts dating a new guy or hooks up with another it tears me up inside. I don't know what to do, the sure fire way is to distance myself from her but if I do that I lose a best friend, but if I don't I still get torn up to an extent. Suggestions?
2006-10-31 06:30:02 · 9 answers · asked by Mistervision2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been in the same place I've been best friends with a guy since I was like 5yrs. He hit on me one night when we had to be about 17yrs I told him no because I didn't Want to ruin our friendship. So know I am 21yrs and I just go married when I told my best friend he was upset he confused that he wanted me for the longest time then kissed me. I told him if we were really truly meant to be together then it would have happened along time ago, but it didn't. And we always say we are friends first no matter what happens. If u cant get over the rejection its because u still want to date her and not be just friends u have to find someway to work that out cause until u can get over the rejection u will never be anything else!
2006-10-31 06:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well if you really think about you should be happy that you are friends because some times that can stop like nothing and you should be happy that she has found some one but also maybe you should go out and get a girlfriend cause then if you notice her getting upset about you and another girl then maybe she just wasnt ready and personally i think that dating your best friend could be the worst thing for both of you, in the end you both could hate each other and you wont even talk or nothin more then friends can reck friend ships
2006-10-31 06:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really don't have any suggestions--sorry! It sounds like a tough situation. She was right to let you know up front that she wasn't interested in pursuing a dating relationship as opposed to leading you on. That must have been difficult for her as well. You seem very genuine and sincere. She's lucky to have a friend like you. Dating would have altered the friendship, and maybe she had the vision to understand that. Just try to value that friendship and be there for her as needed. There's no easy solutions to numb your feelings--but it may be worth it in the long run. Good Luck
2006-10-31 06:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to 'Golden Key Her" as a promising lover and find someone that wants you for your special ways. Do not limit yourself by concentrating and hoping for a reunion.
Case in point. Meet a gay guy who was as straight as the day is long and I fell madly in love with him. Unfortunately, I was not wise to know that his rebuttals to my affection was a way to protect me and the friendship. After some frustrating months of second guessing him, I came out and said are you gay, and he said with relief yes! Then he said, can we seal this friendship and get on with our lives now. The friendship has lasted through two marriages, several break-ups and over thirty years. He is my alter-ego and my sounding board and I wouldn't trade him for the world.
2006-10-31 06:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one! All I can say is...You might need to stay away from her for a while. Get going on your own dating. If you hang around her, I don't think that it will get easier. I kind -of-know where you are coming from, so I can give you some advice.
2006-10-31 06:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
howdy, l merely made a chum request by potential of mistake! Clicked the incorrect line, lol decrease her some slack, and confer along with her at college. tell her you like to characteristic her on facebook. to boot, it quite is her mom and father that are conserving her from including you. distinctive mom and father are like that
2016-12-28 09:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by santolucito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side.
At least you know that she isn't really a friend.
I'm sure she has already come to terms with the friendship ending.
2006-11-01 11:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another best friend who isnt as busty as she is. Busty ones need people around them to go ga-ga over.
Violation Free answer.
2006-10-31 06:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by novembr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get underneath her!
2006-10-31 06:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋