Please note that I don't ask this question because I'm a racist. My adopted daughter are happily married to a wonderful black man and they have a six year old daugther who is half black half white. Problem is this child doesn't fit in anywhere. The beginning of this year she was first put in a predominantly white school, where she was kind of rejected by the white kids. Then they put her in a black school where the black children didn't want to play with her because she was not black enough. This had made me wonder if integration was really such a good thing. What do you think?
2006-10-31 06:26:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
That's a really tough question. Unfortunately, racism is still alive and kicking - in white people AND black people - otherwise, this wouldn't be an issue.
I don't think there's anything morally wrong with people of different races marrying each other. It can be a beautiful thing! But in this screwed up world where people are so quick to stereotype and hate each other, there are a lot of questions that should be asked before a bi-racial couple does have children. Sadly enough, issues like this may/will come up, and the family needs to be prepared for it.
Hopefully, your daughter and her husband have instilled a strong teaching of racial tolerance in your grandaughter, and I hope she finds a place she feels she fits into soon. We can only change the world by teaching our children the right thing, and doing the right thing ourselves!
My heart goes out to your family!
2006-10-31 06:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know... this is very hard to answer... but I will try..... school children regardless of age or grade.. can be very critical of each other... If there is an imperfection of any kind with another student, they are going to be singled out by some other students.. No all,, but some... This stems back with their home lives and their teachings at home from their parents... The thing I would do is to try and teach your grandchild that he or she is special... and to just be nice to other students regardless of what they may think or say... she will come out the winner... Just tell your grandchild that their are some people whom are not as intelligent as she or he is... they cannot comprehend what is going on in today,s society,,, There are so many people that have black blood running thru their veins and don,t even know it.. It all begin many many years ago... I think a relationship is built on being in love , you can,t help whom a person falls in love with.. Love and being in love are two different ball games... If two people are in love,, then so be it whom they marry.... As I said this question is somewhat hard to ans... hope this helps... just find a way to teach your grandchild that he or she is special... and just to ignore the comments and etc... after all everyday is another day to adult hood... and when they are adults,, things will change... Mary
2006-10-31 06:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mary F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, these children are just showing who their parents are. They react as they are taught in their homes. But if you want to marry a person of a different race, then don't let that stop you. You must not be naive, though, to think that if you have children, they will be accepted. Also, you cannot be naive to think that people from different races will be accepted if they marry. Oftentimes they are discriminated against because of this (by either race). It is to be noted that, because of slavery, that some blacks object to inter-racial marriage. If we were all the same color, we would probably find something in which to discriminate (you live there, I live here; I have this much money, you have none, etc.) It is so sad.
2006-10-31 06:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful! I'm White and have been married to a Black man for many years now. Our son has NO trouble whatsoever with other children, white, black, mixed, or other nationalities! Look at your grandchild as a human and not a color, and I think you will get along much better in your life. Remember that ALL kids have problems growing up no matter what color they may or may not be. It does not have to mean that they are troubled because they are mixed, it's probably just normal childhood behavior.
2006-10-31 06:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are "they" that they moved her to a white school then a black school? And where do you live, Mississippi? I am Caucasian and my wife is Japanese, our kids have absolutely no problem in school. You probably need to look at your attitude first, that rubs off a lot on kids. If you feel they are different, then they will feel different, and other will treat them different. Look at how you called them half white and half black. Noone is half of anything, they are a whole person.
2006-10-31 06:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by xorosho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , I feel we should be able to love and marry who we want. I do have a friend that has 3 mixed children . One day we was getting ready to go shopping, the youngest girl was watching mom get ready and was looking in the mirror. She looks seriously at her mom and says mom why don't like look like you.She told her because you look like your dad, the little girl started crying and said but I want to look like you momma. That has left a impression with me always. I do feel kids could be affected by it in live. Maybe one day the world will stop the being racist and see the beauty of all.
2006-10-31 06:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Diana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot wait for the day if it ever comes that we don't have to ask questions like this.The only thing I can say to your question is the more it is done the more it is excepted.I don't think things like this should stop us from trying.If everyone stuck with what was "politically correct",we would all be the same and that would be boring.Also if we don't try great people like Martin Luther King would have been in vain.
2006-10-31 06:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Piper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one ever said life was easy. Hell yes, people of different races should marry and have kids on one condition... they are in love with each other. To paraphrase Metallica... Nothing else matters. I realize you will be putting your child in a stressful situation, but you and your husband seem to have a firm grip on things. Teach your children that not all people have the ability to come to grips with that this is the 21st century. Sounds to me like your child will do great. Congratulations to both of you, you have my utmost respect.
2006-10-31 06:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, perhaps your daughter should be placed in school like mine where there is diversity, eveyone hangs out with everyone. Also, is your daughter not fitting in because she is shy( or maybe too outgoing)...maybe it has nothing to do with her race...
Secondly i can somewhat relate to your problem...my brother, who looks biracial( he not, he just has a light complexion) is treated differently that my older brother (who has a very dark complexion) MY lighter bro has more white freinds and my dark bro has more black friends.
And finally, i absolutley think ppl should marry out side of their race if tey want. The heart want it wants. And i think the children are special because they have both worlds part of them.
well thats all i have to say
peace and love- chai
2006-10-31 06:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by chai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are mean about all sorts of things. They look for something that is different at certain ages in order to exclude others - it's natural. If it wasn't being interracial, it could be something else - too heavy, too thin, handicap, whatever.
Give her the love she needs and the rest will come around. Besides, we're all mixed races anyway. You may even explain that to her if she starts to feel left out.
2006-10-31 06:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by ksmpmjoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋