Hi! Please help me!
Im 16 and I was going out with this guy for 18 months. I thought Id marry him because we were truely, madly deeply in love. We took a break and we werent allowed to see other people and then he 'cheated' on me with a 13 year old and I found out about it through one of his friends. So I gave him a piece of my mind and got back at him by dating his close friend. Now Im stuck in this relationship and I realise that I will never be happy without him. I cant kiss the boy Im dating nor can I develop any emotion for him. My ex is dating the 13 year old but he has cheated on her several times. He has changed completely. He drinks, smokes, goes clubbing and doesnt care about school. He is completely off track without me. He lies to me to make it seem like he is doing fine without me. Is there any chance of him still having feelings for me? It was a first true love situation. I always thought that we would love each other till the end of time...HOW DO I GET HIM BACK?
2006-10-31 06:21:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he really loves you then he will make his way back, but two wrongs don't make a right either you both did wrong in the relationship, and you need to be honest with the guy you're dating now and let him know that you have no feelings for him and then move on, wanting the ex back isn't a good choice he already cheated on you and could do it again, and you deserve someone who actually respects you and the relationship and who you can feel emotions for.....
2006-10-31 06:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? You mention how he's off track without you and he's doing all these other things. It has nothing to do with you. He's making his own choices as stupid as they may be.
Do you really think that getting him back will change anything about him. No. It's obvious you have maternal feelings toward him, but he has no feeling for you. He has no feelings for the 13 year old either.
You're 16. Why you were in an 18 month relationship is beyond me. How old is he that he's "clubbing" and cheating on a 13 year old. Oh yeah, he's a keeper. Stop feeling responsable for him and start getting back to you.
2006-10-31 06:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SO YOUNG- and im speaking from experience. I was 16 once and stupidly in love (now 25) and there is more to life than a stupid boy. It didnt get me anything but pregnant at 16, i wouldnt trade my son now for anything in the world- but the point is, i thought we were truly, madly in love- and we really werent. I am married now and as i look back on everyting its all so pathetic and funny at the same time. Enjoy being a young girl and dont make the wrong decisons chica! you dont need him back- i know exactly how you feel- trust me- your FIRST RED FLAG is that he cheats then he smokes, drinks and goes clubbing at that age?!?!- AND hes with a 13 year old for god sakes- you dont need no sloppy seconds from a lil girl honey! Let her have him- im sure thier maturity level makes them a perfect match -lol- What is there left thats good about him besides how you feel.??
Please think about all this sweetheart, and jsut pray to God to steer you in the right direction and make the right decisions- OR to just plain help yuo to get him off your mind so you can move on happily (and you DO NOT need a boy for that)
God bless you seetie- i wish u all the best
xoxoKaila
2006-10-31 06:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♥kailababy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to show up at his house and just talk to him - with none of his friends around. Tell him how you feel and that you are concerned for him and that you know how he's changed.
But you also have to see that you are 16, you have your WHOLE life ahead of you so if this is the one guy that you are supposed to be with it'll work out in the end. And if he's immature enough to date a 13 year old, then maybe you should re-evaluate things. You all aren't even out of high school yet!!! What about college? Your "one and only" could be waiting on you somewhere and your still stuck on a high school thing... Don't worry, it'll be ok - but talk to him because he doesn't need to give up on life.
2006-10-31 06:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by curiousone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey u are still young not every person finds their soul mate in high school. Move on date around. U don't want to be tied down with the same man forever. Shop around and when u finally find that special someone u will know and u wont have to worry about a thing. If u truly love someone u don't break up! Keep ur head up and just think more time for friends and go shopping for a new man have fun!
2006-10-31 06:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to want to hear this, but: You're chasing a lost cause here.
He cheated on YOU. So the fact that he cheated on THAT girl only means he has NOT changed at all. You breaking up with him would NOT cause him to change so much -- he changed before you even broke up with him.
Could he be depressed because of you? Sure. But don't give yourself too much credit by thinking he needs you back -- what you did in return pretty much burned that bridge down.
It's time to start over with a clean slate.
2006-10-31 06:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Craig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to get back with a repeat cheater? What's to stop him from cheating on you even if you did get back together? Break off the relationship you are in now. It's a sham and you know it. You shouldn't chase after him. If he really has feelings for you and knows that you are available, he will come back. Personally I think you deserve better.
2006-10-31 06:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow to be young again and feel that way...listen honey move on, you are way too young . If he is acting like that and cheating on his girlfriend and cheated on you, why in the world would you even want a boy like that?? But that's not even the point the point is you are too young to truly know what love is or to appreciate it, chalk it up to puppy love and move on with your life. Worry about school.
2006-10-31 06:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by all_304 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULD YOU WANT HIM BACK??? He sounds like such a loser, you are much better than that and do not deserve a loser. Obviously he is still a child himself, why else would he date a 13 year old? Of course he DOES NOT have feelings for you. You are too smart for him. Especially if you only went out with him for 18 months, you still have your whole life ahead of you, variety is the spice of life.
2006-10-31 06:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get him back! Don't you realize that he cheated on you?! What makes you think he won't cheat on you again if you get together again??! He is insecure and you can't have confidence in him anymore. Find secure guy who really loves you...
2006-10-31 06:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by J&B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋