evan though we told them there to young (both 20) they should wait ect (did i mention this girl has been divorced twice at the age of 20) i haven given up trying to discourage them and and i am stuck if i swing my position now they will know i am faking but i love my stepson we are (were) close hes is so much better than her what in the world should me and his dad do go not go should i leap from the pew and choke her what .I do wish him happiness but i know this is gonna end just like her last two marriages when she gets board and finds a new man but my stepson is smitten and thinks this will last forever anybody else in same boat? id sure like some support.
2006-10-31 06:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by auntie s 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Show up and sit in the back. Sometimes you have to let people learn from their mistakes. Does he have a prenup? Love him despite his stupidity. Maybe she will stay and the relationship will work. Stranger things have happened. Or you could leap from the pew and choke her, now that would be a nice photo for the wedding album. :)
2006-10-31 06:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my family referred to my fiance as the "anti-christ", I probably wouldn't want them to attend either. Some young marriages work out well...but I can understand your concerns since she has been divorced twice at age 20. The best thing you can do, is let your step-son know that your love for him outweighs all else, including your dislike for this girl. Try to keep the lines of communication open, so that if it does fall apart later on, he will feel he can come to you for support. It's tough to watch someone you love make what in your opinion, is a mistake...but some of the best lessons come from mistakes.
2006-10-31 14:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should be more supportive I just turned 21 and I got married this past weekend my husband is also 21. We have been together for 6 years and marriage was the last step. Let them be happy they will make their own mistakes that's the only way for them to learn. Be there and let him know how u really feel but let him know its only ur opinion. There is not much more u can do than that.
2006-10-31 14:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, honor your STEPSON's wishes, if he want's you there, they ignore the *****. As far as age, the age of getting married isn't as important as really being in love with someone. I married my husband when I was 18, that was 13 years ago and I'm happier every day with him.
Your step-son will come to his senses soon enough about this girl, being divorced twice at her age shows a lot. This may just have to be a lesson your step-son has to learn, he will regret you not being there.
2006-10-31 14:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remember when you told your son to do something like... clean his room, when he didn't want to? What did he do? He fought and fought, refused it because he hated being controlled, then did it at a time when it wound up being HIS decision.
Same thing here. It's out of your hands now -- emotion and logic never go hand-in-hand. There's no way you're going to help by telling him the woman he's in love with is no good for him.
I know you mean well and you don't want him to make another mistake -- but you can't help him unless he wants to be helped. He will have to learn the hard way, and then he'll look back and go, "I Should've Listened to You, Ma".
2006-10-31 14:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Craig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to get them to not do it is obviously only going to make them want to do it even more.
Young people will generally go the other way if they think/feel that they're being pushed by their parents, into doing some things that parents are only trying to help them with.
Right or wrong, bad or good... they're going to make their own decisions... regardless of what the parents think/feel about some things.
They're not listening... just be there for your son... love & support him... regardless of her.
He will find out soon enough... then he'll need you there for him to help him pick up the pieces & help him get his life back together again.
Just tell him that you're there to do your best for him, to love & support him when he needs you.
That way, you'll still be there, in his good graces... even when she's long-gone.
2006-10-31 14:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my...that is a tough one.
I would have done the same...but unfort there is nothing you can do!...and that sucks.
I would say go to the wedding....b/c when this crumbles and it sounds like it will....he will know you supported him regardless.
LOL..but try not to leap from the pew and choke her b/c that would be too obvious....INSTEAD step on her trian or the bottom of her dress as she is passing by!...LMAO...I'm kidding:)
Good luck!
2006-10-31 14:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by kissmybum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've said your piece and they know how you feel. Regardless of how you feel, they deserve your support; both of them. This marriage might be a mistake, but it's their mistake to make. Your stepson believes that he is in love with this woman and you need to show that you believe in him. The Christian thing to do is to wrap them both in your love and help them to succeed in their marriage. You need to treat her with genuine kindness, consideration, and love. This is your stepsons choice; do the right thing and support the both of them with sincerity. Vindictive and vengeful is not a good color on you.
2006-10-31 14:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that must be hard but give her a break. have you gooten to know her and her past. the cover is'nt all it's cracked up to be. maybe she has had 2 divorces but are you sure about that? how did she have time for 2 weddings in 2 yrs? wow shes a busy girl... just give her a chance and be happy for your son and let him learn on his own.
2006-10-31 14:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage do not last when they are so much friction between the inlaws. Sons will not be happy without the blessing of their mothers, but knowing this let him know that you respect his decision and that you are there if he needs you. You can't make his choice----
2006-10-31 14:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋