he does something wrong while doing it?
I'm supposed to be happy that he cleaned the tub and not upset that he dumped all my different shampoos into the same container. Why shouldn't I expect him to do housework every now and then? Isn't that just part of life? Noone would ever say to a man that he should be soooo grateful that she did some housework. Noone would even say that, if I were to do some "man" work such as mow the lawn. So what's with this double-standard?
2006-10-31 06:06:42 · 9 answers · asked by Dellajoy 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I believe I heard this from Jef Foxworthy, but can't remember for sure.
He said that a women could be out repaving the drive way and her husband would run out and tell her he emptied the ash tray so she didn't have to worry about doing that.
Yes it is a double standard lol.
2006-10-31 06:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Umm Ali 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not his job. At least in our family, it isn't. His job is to be my (and our daughter's) protector and our provider--he goes out and works hard all day long at his job, supporting us so that I can stay at home with our 5-month-old and take care of her and the house. It's my job to be the keeper of the home--cook good meals for our family; keep the house clean and organized; etc. The LAST thing I would ever do is ask my husband to do housework, after he's worked hard all day for us. Now of course there are exceptions to this; when I'm sick he takes over, or when he has the day off and there's alot to be done, I do ask him to do certain tasks, like take out the garbage, or wash up the supper dishes, or something. And when he does do something, it is never the way I would do it; but I look at it this way: every task he completes is one that I don't have to do. I can either be grateful for his sincere effort and be happy with the result, even though it's not how I'd do it, or I can gripe and complain, and make him never want to help me again! I know I wouldn't even want to make the effort to help someone who's only going to complain about how poor a job I did. I don't mean to preach to you; you have to decide what's best for your own family; but as for us, that's how it goes. I try to appreciate all that my husband does. Of course that doesn't always happen and I have my moments of complaining, like we all do, but I'm really trying to change that. Anyway that's my answer. :-)
2006-10-31 14:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a double-standard but it's just so out of the social norm, your man is looking for extra props. This would be analogous to you watching SportsCenter twice a day and winning the office fantasy football league. There's nothing bad about either; just far outside the current societal norm.
Be glad your man is scrubbing the tub and assuage his ego--give him some special extra private praise.
2006-10-31 14:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right your married to a jerk. All the men in your life is jerks.
lol If I had the right woman in my life I would do all the housework and do it after I came home from work.
If I ever meet this one special lady. She thinks I am the best thing that ever came along in her life. Who does the house work would not be a problem for me.
2006-10-31 14:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by butch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Household chores should be divided equally among all who live in the household, including men!! I agree that it is ridiculous to fall all over yourself being grateful for something that ought to be a given. Maybe if more women would have higher expectations of their men, this wouldn't happen. It all begins at home. I taught my son how to take care of himself and never expect a woman to do it for him. Same with my girls.
2006-10-31 14:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by LaLa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my husband used to not make enough, so i said if i have to work, then i'm not doing any extra housework, i didn't cook or clean unless we both did it. i used to do mine and the kids laundry. so now he makes good money, so i stay home with the kids and do all the housework have dinner ready and make his lunch, that's my job!! unfortunately it seems like it never ends! at least he gets weekends off!
2006-10-31 14:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by mgm_5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to trade in the old model for a new one.
2006-10-31 14:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. My husband will do a little chore or something and if I don't practically thank him and acknowledge him over and over then he just thinks it's not appreciated and so he won't do one again. It's annoying.
2006-10-31 14:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by 7aliens 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always say that if you want something done right, do it yourself.
2006-10-31 14:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋