we had a horrible argument that lasted 2 days and we have cooled down but things are not back to normal, what can I do?
2006-10-31 06:05:45 · 31 answers · asked by trailsend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Things might not be back to normal for a little bit. I would give him some time and space. Make sure that the both of you are really and truly over what has happened. If not, then after you've had some space, revisit the conversation in a productive and non-emotional way. If things are still bothering either one of you then you wont be able to effectively move forward until it is resolved.
If there is no resolution to this issue, this might have to be one of those agree to disagree things and let it go. Don't let him or yourself bring it up in later arguments.
2006-10-31 06:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always done this (once I have cooled down) I doesn't matter who's at fault or what opinions either of you have. I first pray to God, ask for insight, and listen.....then "I" view things through my husbands eyes the best I can. We all have "filters" which mean we hear and experience things through our own woundedness and life experience. So we all perceive each experience differently. Alot of times I will take a back seat, so to speak, to help my honey. Marriage and relationships is rarely 50/50. I stick with things the best I can and show my son (12) that things can be resolved, if you try. If you are in an abusive relationship I will tell you to start thinking about yourself more. My best to you. :) Di
2006-10-31 14:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by Red! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk around the house stark naked. Wear nothing but a Mona Lisa smile. Tell him you will cook for him only if he gets naked too. Do not go too close to him or touch him in any way. It will drive him nuts and he will start to follow you around. As you stroll here and there, bend over frequently and pick things off the floor that you have already placed here and there just for that purpose. The view will further drive him up the wall.
Lead him into a corner and suddenly turn around and face him. Make a move to go around him. He will box you in and back you up against the wall. Put your arms around his neck and your legs around his waist. You will have makeup sex like you never had before. Neither of you will ever forget it.
Arguments from now on will be started just for the fun of the end game.
2006-10-31 14:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both talk about what the argument was about if not it will not go away. Tell him the truth about what you think and let him do the same. Its all in the way you say what you say not what you say. And understand him and take how he feels in consideration and I am sure he will do the same thing. A good meal might help it out. Good luck
2006-10-31 14:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be the one thats sorry oral sex is usually good for a male. But for you both to make-up I think one of you still needs to start it off, and a date or something romantic together alone can help you both talk and both say sorry about the other day.. To be honest, if you have a lot of free time then sex should be first..and should be special, not just normal, and then you should both be relaxed for your date or romantic time together.
2006-10-31 14:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is give your husband time. Continue to be loving and ask him what he is feeling. There may still be some unresolved issues that he is not talking about.
Communication is the key. If you ask him what you can do to make him feel better about whatever you were arguing about, he will tell you.
2006-10-31 14:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tamika G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surprise him with a quiet evening. A candle lit indoor picnic.
Have dinner on the floor with a red table cloth candles and rose petals, then slip into something more comfortable for dessert.
Put a little note outside the door that says something short and sweet about you being glad youre not fighting anymore and youre sorry, and something sexy about what awaits him inside!
Thatll be nice
2006-10-31 14:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by ♥kailababy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are sorry for what took place 2 days ago, and that you miss him and If you could just get a hug it will be good right about now! Fix him a nice dinner.
2006-10-31 14:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEMONSTRATE that you will change each of the things he argued with you about.
...even if you're right. It's called turning the other cheek.
Of course this advice does not apply if he is abusive, a druggy or argued with you that he deserves to have a mistress - you get the picture.
2006-10-31 14:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by Salami and Orange Juice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and let him know that you don't like being angry with each other. Tell him that you love him and start to talk about the times when you were happiest, or when you first met. Tell him that you never want to stay angry, that you want to be able to talk out your concerns before they become problems. Always talk it out instead of letting it linger. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 14:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by curious mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋