He was in love with me before, but we broke up, I was the one who broke it. And then I wanted him back, he is back in my life again after so much struggle. Now i dont see that he is so happy about it. He is doing it because he dont want to hurt me. But I feel we are not happy togther any more. Specially him. But now its kind of late. Our wedding date is set. I am so confuse.
2006-10-31 06:00:10 · 16 answers · asked by Fantasy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Think back to why you broke up with him in the first place; what was the problem? If you sense that he with you just because he does not want to her you and you know he is happy. DO NOT DO IT! YOU CAN NOT FORCE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU! IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION!
2006-10-31 06:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be forever (though our current society doesn't reflect this sentiment). If you respect marriage as a binding contract of commitment based on unconditional love, then you would not be so confused and the answer would be clear. If marriage is just something you do, then by all means marry him and start planning your separation and then divorce when the fit hits the shan. Just because the wedding date is set doesn't mean it's too late to do the right thing - for yourself and for your partner.
2006-10-31 14:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by sjrae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems like its impossible to call off the wedding because its only a month away but trust me that its easier to do that then file for a divorce. People aren't going to think you are nuts for calling it off. I actually would have respect for you that you had enough confidence in yourself and could admit to everyone that this may not be the person you or him want to spend the rest of your life with. If you feel him not wanting to get married , talk to him and trust your instincts!!!!! Many men would not have enough courage to back out at this point (being so close to the date) but I hope to God you do.Good luck...
2006-10-31 14:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by trixinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him. Think about the reasons why you broke it off the first time. Chances are they have not gone away. Tell him you think the 2 of you are not ready for marriage. Tell him youwant him to be happy. Maybe you can stay bf amd gf, maybe not. Either way you will be ok. The inconvenience of cancelling your wedding plans is trivial compared to the anguish of marrying "Mr. Wrong." Good luck.
2006-10-31 14:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too late. You can cancel. Yes, it would be inconvenient or embarrassing or costly.... but at the end of the day it's best you get this sorted out now before it is too late and you file for a messy divorce. Talk to him. Establish that this is what he really wants. If either one of you are having doubts... CANCEL the wedding.
2006-10-31 14:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should move the date until you BOTH are sure this is what you want to do . If you don't deal with it now you will be dealing with it in divorce court. You don't seem that confident and neither does he. One of you has to make the first move and deal with the problem at hand.
2006-10-31 14:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by t j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get into anything with doubts. So what the date is set. The doesn't mean its to late to save yourself from a lifetime or regret and remorse. I believe that life gives you warnings and signs...pay attention!
2006-10-31 14:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too late until you say I DO! If your not happy then don't get married! Marriage is supposed to be for life! Do you want to live your life unhappy? If your not happy don't get married, save yourself and him some heartache!
2006-10-31 14:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you would marry someone who doesn't WANT to marry you, someone who probably doesn't love you because it's to late? It's not to late to be HONEST. Marrying him is NOT going to make him any happier than he is now and in the end result in a divorce. Is THAT what you want?
2006-10-31 14:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not to late. Call it off, and have a party instead.
Tell the quest you've decided to wait. Let them keep
their gifts.You do need to let him go, after the party.
2006-10-31 14:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋