Hey everyone, I'm 21 with a 18 month old and just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant again. I just graduated from nursing school and pursing my RN degree. My 18 month old's father and I recently separated (we're on bad terms because I have someone new), now I'm pregnant by my new bf. The thing is my new bf wants me to keep the baby but I know my 18 mo old's father is going to start even more problems. What should I do?? HELP!
2006-10-31 05:56:54 · 15 answers · asked by Beautiful 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's not about your old or new boyfriend but about what you know is best for YOU. However, If your new boyfriend is who you are trying to start over with then he should be the one helping you make your decision, never mind The fact that you are pregnant by him.
Holding on to the past makes it even harder to see the future.
2006-10-31 06:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jerseygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about what is best for the baby and your 18 month old. They should be your #1 priority. What kinds of problems do you think your ex is going to cause? Technically its none of his business what is going on in your personal life, as long as you two aren't married and what you're doing isn't harming his kid. To me, I don't think this would be a logical reason for an abortion. You need to think about the tiny life growing inside of you and the potential you have to help it become a wonderful little person. Good luck to you and I hope you make the right decision!
2006-10-31 14:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by MrsN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is no longer a part of this equation.How would he have felt if you had chosen not to have your first child. By the time your next baby is born, you will be working and financially stable. Enjoy your pregnancy with your new beau.
2006-10-31 14:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by newcreature74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't about either your ex or your current BF. It is about what you want to do. Your ex's concern should be about taking care of the child he has with you and nothing else in your life is of any concern of his. Your current Bf should respect your decisions regarding your coming child whatever they are. It is your body, your life, and ultimately your decision! It is something you have to live with for the rest of your life neither one of them might be there with you for the long haul so the choice is yours and you shouldn't let anything cloud your judgement in making that decision.
2006-10-31 14:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by samadhi021 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep a baby your ex should not punish a child for your problems between you and him its not right he should not feel that way. But really its how you feel would you rather have the baby and deal with your ex or have the baby and deal with your conscience.
2006-10-31 14:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by confusedswirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIdn't you learn after the first time to use protection? It's up to you what you do with the baby, and should not let what your x is going to do effect your decision. No one can decide that for you.
2006-10-31 13:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about having some morals? If you did, you wouldn't be in this situation. You got an education so you can make money, why would you allow yourself to get pregnant again?? And by another man? I don't get women like you. Why no marriage?
2006-10-31 14:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your ex has nothing to do with your new baby...if it's not his, then it's none of his business.
Figure out what you want with your life...whats more important, a career as an RN, or starting a family with this new guy.
2006-10-31 13:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Flower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of ur 18 month old child and urself the first bf left u after u had a child. don't u think this one is going to do the samething too.
2006-10-31 14:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by les_sweety 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You see what problems pre-marital sex causes?
You should just give it up for adoption. If you don't want it, someone else will. There are tons of people out there who would give anything for a child.
And don't even consider abortion. Abortion isn't another word for "birth control"--it's another word for murder.
2006-10-31 13:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋