What do you do if you live with someone (roomie) and she is SO negative that you realize that she brings you down and affects your life? How do you deal with that? I have a lease for another year with her and we were once close friends (that's changing) but now she drinks too much and gets mean. She's also so negative and paranoid about her life. It really affects me. How do I deal with this without causing any more problems for myself?
2006-10-31 05:39:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Try to talk to her without it looking like a confrontation; if you can find out what is wrong, then perhaps you can put it in a new perspective for her (things could be much worse). If this doesn't work, then you just have to ignore her as best you can until the lease runs out, but if she decides to talk, then listen since she is a friend and you probably don't want to just give up on that.
2006-10-31 05:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ken A. Dien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you live in the same house/apartment does not mean that you have to do everything together and you need to separate yourself from her and her negativity. You need to work on becoming confident and sure of where you are, what you are, who you are and get to the point that her negative attitude will no longer bring you down. If she asks why you seem so distant, tell her the truth, that because she is always so negative and mean that you no longer enjoy being around her. Don't worry about what she will do or say, just be honest and frank with her.
2006-10-31 05:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 01:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by daw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her as much as possible
When she comes in, go out
Think possitive
or ......
you could boost her up, help her with her problems,maybe something horrible happend to her
SHOW HER YOU CARE AND THAT YOU'LL BE THERE FOR HER
and maybe just maybe she'll change
2006-10-31 05:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Max Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need to distance yourself somehow,
negative people do bring you down,, can depress you,,
you can also snap at her and tell her to Shut the heck up with her negativity
2006-10-31 05:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a book on how to love yourself.....or talk to her and give her positive reinforcement...
2006-10-31 05:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋