HOw do you keep the flame alive as a married couple.dating couple?
2006-10-31 05:36:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
High school. I know that sounds lame but its true. We met via a mutual acquaintance. We dated for 2 years, got married out of school and have been married for 24 years. The key? Talk to each other, become the best of friends. BE SPONTANEOUS. Make decisions as one. Visit new places together. Cook together.
2006-10-31 05:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by ratdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI< Shrek and I met at a pool hall on a group outing with mutual friends. Months before we knew each other our friends though we'd be perfect together. I actually did NOT like him when I first met him. I thought he was very very handsome, but that he was a jerk. The odd thing is, 11 years later I still think he's very handsome, and his "jerkiness" is an endearing quality, as long as it's not directed towards me!! We keep the flame alive by spending time together, just being together. We talk over our days and share lots of inside jokes. We both really enjoy our roles as parents to our 4 shreklings and enjoy talking about and planning our future together. We've had a few good fights, but never once said "I'm leaving". We just don't quit, never give up and tell ourselves it's not even an option.
2006-10-31 05:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by mamatoshreksboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We met online. We weren't looking at the time and just started chatting on a game site.
We're long distance. He currently lives in the US and I live in Canada. We keep it alive by talking every night without fail. Let's just say our communication is probably at a level that most married couple never reach. We talk about EVERYTHING. We have nothing more to base our relationship on because it's not like we can date and the physical parts of it only happen very occasionally.
We're working on bringing him here.
2006-10-31 05:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not be the best source, b/c i'm not married yet. But my fiance and I met 5 years ago.
I saw him at our neighborhood pool and he was looking extremely sexy. I made an excuse to drive by one or two more times until he finally waved to me.
I saw him getting into his car sometime later. The next day, I left a note on his car telling him my name and giving him my number.
(i have never done anything like that before; but hey..... i will never regret it)
We just recently moved in together, so it's a test on its own.
But, we have learned that communication is the best thing to keep the flame going. Regardless of what the topic/area, communication helps us stay sane and stay together.
Whether it's talking about our physical needs/wants or telling each other when we're pissed off, you have to talk to one another to make sure you both still want the same thing.....
and to make sure that both of you are still getting it
2006-10-31 05:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by sa_hollingsworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my dream man on the net...yes..on the net. He is the best thing that has EVER happened to me. I love him with all my heart.
We've been together for almost 10 years and I still think he is the most sexy man I've ever known. We dont' have to do much to keep things happening.
We do have kids around alot of the time so making time for each other is important and sometimes we have to get creative. Put in a movie that will bore them into leaving the house for a few hours and the like!!!
2006-10-31 05:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Loli M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He saw me and RAN after me. He ignited enough of a spark for me which kept growing. Because we adore each other, we keep that flame alive with kindness, respect and communication. Marriage is something you need to work at regardless of how strong the chemistry.
2006-10-31 05:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my flame at my previous job and we keep the flame alive because we are madly in love with each other.
2006-10-31 05:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't expect a "flame," you expect trust, security, compassion, kindness, friendship, a deep bond, communication, a partnership and a sense of teamwork. You treat your partner with love, respect, admiration and affection. The "flame" flares up in cycles, but the embers are always burning warmly.
2006-10-31 05:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband of 41 years & I met on a blind date when I was 16 & he was 19. We have arguments but we have found that the best thing for us is to sit & talk as much as we can about everything we feel.
We also pray together every day even though we were both brought up in different faiths.
2006-10-31 05:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by day by day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i really liked this quest
Ok he is a PAksitani and I'm Indian :) Both of us live in Kuwait
We met online - had fight on first chat....But then we became frndz.
He proposed me:) hmm 3yrs back....
We neve did anything special to keep that flame alive...
Yeah we fight ALOT.... after every fight we die to talk to each other...May be thats the reason....
Amantobillah Amantobillah Amantobillah (Touchwood)
2006-10-31 05:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sakina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋