My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We've been discussing marriage for about a year. He's already graduated from college, and I'm graduating in December 2006. He already owns a house, and I've already lived with him there over one summer, and we also lived together in an apartment the summer before that. We are certain about tying the knot. We want to have a nice ceremony at some time, but right now, with me trying to finish up school, and just starting to get our lives started together.... it just isn't going to happen for some time. Our biggest concern right now, is my search for a job. Even if I do manage to land a job before I graduate, I won't have health insurance until my benefits at said job kick in. We've discussed getting married legally, and holding off the ceremony until we have a enough money saved up (my parents don't have a lot of money, so we will be paying with a lot of our own money). What are people's opinions/suggestions on this?
2006-10-31 05:33:38 · 9 answers · asked by xenomorph_girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't recommend a courthouse wedding because it is, after all, your wedding day. Most folks just never get around to the second ceremony and if they do, it just isn't special like the first one. Do whatever you can to make the first one special. Maybe have it in your parents yard, whatever works for you guys. Get a cake, some inexpensive decorations and decorate and make your wedding day one with pictures you can look back on and smile....it may not be fancy, but it's your day. Make it special...!!! Good luck, honey & congrats!!
2006-10-31 05:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine did something similar. I'd wait until you finish school, it's only 2 months, that way you can actually live together. It would suck to know your husband is sleeping in your house alone, while you're at school sleeping alone. Anyway, tie the knot at the court house or a private ceremony and have a large ceremony later.
2006-10-31 05:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting married onlt for the benefits then I think that might be a mistake. However, if you are solely concerned about whether to have a ceremony to celebrate your wedding, then I would consider that many people have very small, intimate ceremonies (large showy ones are overkill) to invite their closest friends who already know your financial situation.
Celebrate your marriage! It's a special occasion...so enjoy it with what you have. You can always throw a party if you feel you need to later on. But invite those special friends to be with you and celebrate with you when you get married!
2006-10-31 05:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the idea is just fine. A lot of people will say it will spoil the romance/meaning of the wedding ceremony but I don't agree. The ceremony will still be the official declaration of your permanent love and commitment for eachother, whether you had the paperwork in hand before the ceremony or not.
2006-10-31 05:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. The way you and your boyfriend want to get married is all up to the 2 of you. If both of you feel that this is how you want to pursue this then more power to the 2 of you. Your wedding day should not be about what other people expect of it, it should be about you and your mate and the way you want to do it. To be honest, my boyfriend and I are thinking about this as well. We don't have the money for a big reception now but still want to get married so we will get married soon but have the reception later.
2006-10-31 05:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever makes you happy. Do you think it would be weird having a ceremony after you are already married? I think you should just wait. Things could change, once the paperwork is done, it is harder to back out of things. The ceremony would be more special if you waited to sign the papers there.
2006-10-31 05:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a small get together with family and close friends and have a big ceremony after. Or you can just live with the small ceremony. Do you really need a big wedding to affirm your love?
2006-10-31 05:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds reasonable to me. No one says you need to have a huge ceremony right off the bat. Plan to have a nice "vow renewal" ceremony on your one-year anniversary, this will make it really special.
2006-10-31 06:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im doing just this in about 2 weeks, my fiance and i are getting married secretly and having a big wedding sometime next year when our parents can afford it. i think there is nothing wrong with it and its actually kind of romantic! go for it girl, and i wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-31 06:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Katy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋