one truly serves God and the other partner doesn't?
I've heard that you need God in order to make your marriage work properly, which I believe, but open to other views or routes.
What I'm saying is if one were to truly serve God in truth and in spirit, goes to church and the other believes in God, but doesnt believe that they have to go to church to serve him, which can be true to a point?
Basically how does a marriage survive if one is trying to serve God, and they see that there is NO, Hope or NO way, NONE whatsoever no matter how strong their faith is in God that the other person will ever go to church or truly serve him as we are supposed to? Can u give me some other views besides Faith?
One partner strictly deals with Reality and the other with both.
How can that coincide with one another and work?
Any faith is welcome to answer, I'm open to all faith's.
2006-10-31 05:25:53 · 14 answers · asked by Sicilian Princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not trying to change him or change how he believes or what he believes. I agree with his spritual ways,
2006-10-31 05:52:50 · update #1
I'm not trying to change him or change how he believes or what he believes. I agree with his spritual ways, as well as mine.
2006-10-31 05:53:03 · update #2
Going to church does not serve God. You can go to church everyday, and be no closer to everlasting life than an atheist. To serve God, one must live his life everyday for God. One must not only obey God's law, but love Him as He loves us. It sounds like you both serve the lord in different ways. Neither way is wrong. Remember, a murderer in prison is no different than a blasphemer; neither will get to heaven if they do not repent, and give themselves to God. It is all about your love for God, and your devotion to Him. If you worship from home, that is fine. If you worship at church, that is fine too. All the faithful get into heaven. Learn to find the commonalities in your faith. Trust me, I am sure you have many.
2006-10-31 05:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is only one of many perspectives. I was born into a non-religious family, and remain non-religious to this day (I'm in my 30s). So, my perspective is strictly secular.
I feel that "god" is not an objective concept, but a construct of the human culture, and culture can be viewed as an extension of the human mind. Science is only beginning to understand how mind works, and how cultures form, so I don't think there's a full "scientific" theory of what exactly religion is (in the objective sense), and how and why it arises. I feel that nothing precludes the two partners from being spiritual in their own way, as long as they recognize that there's no "right" and "wrong" way when it comes to spirituality. How do you know exactly that going to church is the only "right" way to serve god? This is something that is part of your personal relationship with the higher power - but it is NOT the only way. Just cast a glance around the globe, now as well as back in time. While spirituality is part of just about every culture - the ways in which it is expressed vary widely. Can you truly say that your expression of is is the ONLY "right" way? Christianity has only been around for the last 2000 years - while the history Homo sapiens extends at least 100 times this long into the past, and you can bet that countless religions and traditions of serving god or gods has arose during this time.
While many people choose partners with religious views similar to their own, I've known a few couples where two people with different takes on religion co-exist quite peacefully; I think, a common thread in these relationships is that both people leave the other's religious expressions alone - i.e., don't try to impose their own ways on the other person. If, however, it IS important to a person that their partner expresses their spirituality in the same manner - it would not be a good idea to choose a partner who doesn't share this conviction.
2006-10-31 06:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your venue of choice for this type of question will open you up to ridicule and scorn, but I do like the question. Yes, the marriage can still work so long as both partners remain true to each other. Lets say for a moment that you are the one that is going to church and serving God and your husband is not. As long as you do not become judgmental and hostile towards your husband and you remain faithful, you should be okay. It is not the duty individual believers to judge or change others, that is God's and His alone. Entire homes have been saved by the spiritual leadership of one, so do not give up hope and don't limit God by putting him in a box that we like to call Church...
2006-10-31 05:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok lady, there is no clear cut answer exactly, and this would require a lot of explaining. Basically, one of you has been saved and has come under the conviction of the Holy Spiret, the othe one believes in God, but has not been convicted by the Spirit and does not have the understanding that you do, nor the joy, nor the love for Christ. Ok, your partner must first be called or touched by the spirit before he can be saved. In your case, all you can do is pray for him, and ask the Holy Spirit to move on him. May take years, but it does happen many times. Now if your partner does not pray for himself to be saved, you have a problem. God may see fit to get his attention in some way. This could be even harder for you. God is interested in souls not lives, for we all must die the first death.
Ok, you can have a good life together, but you will have to be patient and set a good example for your partner. Let him see the influence of God in your life, the strength, the love, the joy, the compassion etc. Maybe one day he will ask God to come into his life. If not all you can do is santify your marriage by serving God.
2006-10-31 05:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by compassion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel as though you are starting at a disadvantage point. The differences are fairly clear; however I feel as though there is a large point that is being overlooked-- communication.
No relationship, no matter how big the religious, emotional or political differences fails at once. Constant communication between partners allows both people to understand the other's perspective, even if they choose not to take it on as their own.
In my marriage, my husband does not have strong religious views, but he does have a spiritualism that is dear to him. When we first met I did not understand his "religion" and was persistant with trying to show him MY religion. Over time, I am the one who has changed. I understand that what he believes is important to him, equally as important as what I believe. Sometimes in the end, what is important is that you have something that you believe in.
With more specific religions (Christian vs. Jewish) the issues are more visual. Will the kids celebrate Christmas or Hannukah? There are thousands of families who deal with this. A lot of those families choosing to celebrate both holidays, allowing their kids to experience both and decide later.
It is important to keep in mind that no one person is right or wrong. Insisting that someone see your side when it comes to religion is very sticky territory, but it is possible to respect the beliefs and values.
As long as your morals and values are not compromised by a difference of religion, it seems completely reasonable to be able to live and love.
2006-10-31 05:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by caroline b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That situation can work, but it's difficult and only works if both partners are respectful and actively supportive of the other's beliefs. For example... My fiancee is religious. I encourage her to go to church and participate in church events. I am not religious. Quite the opposite. And she is respectful. She does not try to change my feelings. She does not worry about my salvation. She believes that I am a good person and that I will find my own way.
But that level of respect and understanding is rare. It is difficult for an agnostic to understand someone who is deeply devoted to a mystical God. It is difficult for someone who is deeply religious to accept another person's agnosticism without trying to change it. What you need to ask yourself is, can you serve God and still love and respect your significant other enough to accept him/her having different feelings? And can that person do the same for you?
2006-10-31 05:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by barnett811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian. This can work. First thing is YOU and only YOU are responsible for your salvation, no one else can get you to Heaven. Dont let what your husband does or does not do change your behavior. You continue to go to church and look after your self. Also I do know that through prayer and with God all things are possible. Continue to pray for God to change his heart. My sister who is a Christian and has been married to someone who says he is but never goes to church. They have been married for 27 years and she goes to church every Sunday and their kids only went to Christian school. So dont give up. Keep praying and being faithful to God and I know it will work out.
2006-10-31 05:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by rufi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-31 05:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner needs to get into too. Before I got marriage we went through pre-matrial cousling and they told us to make sure that both us was the same religion (Christian) and understand the same goals as far as Going by the bible. Thats what we did. You need to help him get into God like you are. That is maybe the only route.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-31 05:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My husband is the son of a Methodist minister. I'm Wiccan. You can't get much different than that.
You need to let it go. It's NONE of your business what religion your partner is and what they aren't. Nor is it your job "to make them see the light". You need to learn to accept who other people are for who they are.
Just let it go. If you don't, your relationship is over because your partner won't stand for being forced to believe.
2006-10-31 05:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋