my bf has beat me for the past year in a half...at times 3x a week. i never called the cops on him until last night and he was arrested and i have a restraining order on him... i was at the emergency room... the hospital knows what happened & they know there was a police report do you people know if they will provide information to the police without me knowing? what should i do? do i need to let the court know that i was at the er? in fact i'll be having many appointments coming up for follow up??? what should i do?
2006-10-31 05:03:45 · 20 answers · asked by CALI GIRL 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
If you have no done so already, talk to an advocate or counselor at your local domestic violence agency. There are services available to you that you probably don't know about. Your community probably has free counseling, free 911 cell phones, free court advocacy, assistance in working with law enforcement, and can answer any other questions you may have.
They also should have a shelter that you can stay at free of charge if you need to hide out for a little while or if you don't feel safe in your home. They can also assist you in filing for a reimbursement of any costs you incurr. All of their services are free and confidential.
You are doing what you need to do by contacting law enforcement and going to seek medical treatment. Concetrate on taking care of yourself and let law enforcement investigate him. If you are unsure of whether they have all the details they need from you, then give the station a call and talk to the investigating officer. Let him know your new information and any new contact information if you left your home.
You sound very overwhelmed right now. I think the best thing you can do for yourself is contact an advocate who can hold your hand through the entire process.
Edit: If law enforcement needs your medical records they can subpeona them later or can ask you to request them. You don't need to worry about that. The hospital technically can't release them because of HIPPA laws unless you give permission. But, you may have given permission or signed something and just not remember or didn't realize what you were signing.
Oh...and don't listen to Jerry or anyone else, domestic violence is never the victim's fault.
2006-10-31 05:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry that this is happening to you. You should pursue all legal channels to get protection against him (the TRO is a good start) and punish him. The best place to start would be to call a women's shelter and ask them advice. They will ALWAYS have people on hand to advise and help you. They can direct you to legal counsel as well as prepare you for what problems may arise.
While I despise all men who abuse women in any way shape and form, I don't reccommend violence (although I have defended a woman from another man before), it is only a temporary fix and could cause you more trouble from the police. If you have to defend yourself it is best to have spoken to someone in the past so that there is a record of his violence against you and you will be able to use that as part of your personal defense. This may sound extreme to think in those terms, but if he has beaten you for over a year, it is obvious he is incapable of containing his emotions rationally and may escalate.
Please, be safe and get away from him at all costs.
2006-10-31 05:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by photowhitt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The police report should say that you were taken to the ER. Anything beyond that you have to give the hospital permission to release your records for that incident. By releasing a medical report to the police and courts you will be helping them put him where he belongs. Jail! Good Luck!
2006-10-31 05:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A bf who loves you will not hurt u. Ur bf does not love u, so please please do not go back to him. Give the hospital permission to release your records to the police and DA. Put this good for nothing, should be spit on cowardly excuse for a man in jail. It sounds like you are beginning to have 2nd thoughts, dont. You cant love a man into being good to you. You deserve much better than he is. Get counselling to find out why you pui up with his actions for 1 1/2. years. Domestic voilence is a crime and the police will testify to what they observed. If you need help getting back on your feet, that is what welfare, etc is for. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-31 05:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that restraining orders make the abusers feel betrayed, watch your back
Contact your local women's shelter they can provide with the resources you will need to get your life back on track and protection do not continue to stay in the same house and believe you are safe just because you have a restraining order
2006-10-31 05:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the hospital can give your information without your permission. Try not to take to heart the people who will be rude with their answers. A year and half is too long. Press charges. Do what you have to do. He doesn't love you. And even if he did, like Tina said "What's Love Got To Do With It?"
2006-10-31 05:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by Cori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the investigating officer of your case that you were at the hospital. He/she will get you to sign a medical disclosure form so they can get the medical records (can't get them without your consent). These records will help convict the bf in court and will help prove that you were injured. Congrats on having the courage to stop the violence!
Jax gave good advice about victim services. Get a hold of them they will be really helpful.
2006-10-31 05:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The worst factor you probably did was once difference your brain so as to the police officers. You must have carried on. They might have looked after him out and also you might now not be disturbing now approximately ruining his running shoes! I might instead be on my own with my ideas that sit down with a bully all night time. I cannot undestand why you might desire to name him. Just positioned his garments in a bag and stay up for him to return or move them to anybody else to provide him. Then reduce this man from your existence for well. Good Luck - you'll be able to want it.
2016-09-01 05:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. they will not give out any medical info unless you sign a medical release. And girl, now is the time to get out, FOR GOOD, because it will never stop as long as our with him. It will only keep getting worse. YOU did nothing every that warrants being slapped, hit, punched, kicked, things thrown at you or putting you down. You or anyone in this life don't deserve that kind of treatment. Get yourself into therapy as of now. I promise you the only way for you is up now that he is gone!!!!
2006-10-31 05:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the police all the info you can. I'm proud that you stood up for yourself. When he gets out he's gonna try to do it again. Stay with someone capable of protecting you from him. Until this whole thing boils over it isn't safe for you to be living alone when he gets out. Stay blessed and safe.
2006-10-31 05:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋